Do I miss you?
Oh, how I miss you:
As the sun misses the dawn,
As the waves miss the shore,
As the leave miss their trees
when the winter chill sets in.
And, should all those things cease to exist,
I would miss you all the more,
For then I would have no words to describe
How much I do so miss you.

-me

So, I need feedback. Tell me honestly; no jokes.

1. because it's pleasurable, not for strengthening a relationship. Most guys and girls do not have the same views on sex. Don't try to use it to ensnare him, or he'll leave you when he gets what he wants: fail. A good relationship should not be primarily based on sex.

2. agreements should be met between the two of you. If you always think of what he wants, you'll smother him: fail. If you always think of what you want, he'll feel unneeded: fail. A relationship is a two way street; meet halfway, and you'll save a lot on gas.

3. if you don't have a lot of free moments, he'll probably have enough time for himself. But if you come off as too needy by trying to be near him all the time, it's quite a turn off: fail. Every guy likes to be loved, no matter how thick their exterior may be. Exceedingly few guys like to be smothered, even the softies.

And if there is always a reason to everything, why should the father of one of my good friend's son have to die while performing the selfless act of helping another with car trouble? Western science is based on the idea of cause and effect and from there has grown to the western mindset. If that's so, why can't they predict the weather 20 years from now? Any Taoist, and indeed any eastern thinker, will tell you that this plane of existence is not based on the laws of equivalent exchange. Modern science is beginning to realize that at some of the more advanced scientific exploration laboratories. I would not make a statement without having the experience or knowledge to back it up. I don't mean to sound offensive. I'm just trying to offer some insight...Have a nice day.

Um...there is not a reason for everything, but if that makes you feel comfortable, continue to believe it. As for the three mistakes:

1. thinking of a relationship as more than he sees it. (i.e. sex does not equal love)

2. acting in his/your best interest without consulting how him about it.

3. wanting to spend every free moment with him. (you have friends, so does he...hopefully; let friends be friends once in a while.)