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Tue 04/15/08 04:19 PM
I personally would not be so quick to jump into the dating pool right now. My ex & I were pretty much finished when I was a few weeks into my pregnancy, but didn't officially split up until my daughter was 5 weeks old. I couldn't even imagine starting a relationship during my pregancy. First of all, you just recently broke up with your bf, so jumping into another relationship so soon might be construed as rebounding. Considering you are 4 months pregnant, this must be a very recent break up. Second, & most importantly, you have a daughter who not only has to adjust to a new baby, but would also have to adjust to a new man/men in moms life. It just seems like a little much for a child to have to take in. Let this be a great opportunity to spend very quality time alone with her without anyone else in your way- & before the baby arrives.

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Mon 04/07/08 08:05 PM
I recently heard Einstein didn't walk until closer to 3

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Sun 04/06/08 11:49 PM





I can't imagine looking for a man with a 5 month old to raise. First things first. Raise your child; then you can pursue your own thing. This is what I did. I did not want my child subjected to a string of "uncles". Also, raising a child is pretty much a full time thing. There is not much time for worrying about having a boyfriend. Everything comes in its own time.


I understand where you're coming from, my child comes first & foremost. However, is there really anything wrong with finding someone I can hang out with once or twice a week?


No, of course not. I never said there was anything wrong with it. Just that my priorities were different.


At what point would it be okay? My daughter is my number one priority.


I never said it wasn't ok. I just said that my priorities were different. I wouldn't have been looking for dates when my daughter was small, but that is just me. I dated one person when she was about 12, but I was not looking for it; it was just one of those things. She will be 18 in June and my job is almost done, finally. Soon I will be free to have my own life.


I can completely understand where you're coming from. The thing for me is that I'll be 30 next month & would love to have more children someday. Besides missing the companionship for myself, I would also like my daughter to have a great male role model in her life, because my ex has pretty much turned deadbeat.

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Sun 04/06/08 11:36 PM



I can't imagine looking for a man with a 5 month old to raise. First things first. Raise your child; then you can pursue your own thing. This is what I did. I did not want my child subjected to a string of "uncles". Also, raising a child is pretty much a full time thing. There is not much time for worrying about having a boyfriend. Everything comes in its own time.


I understand where you're coming from, my child comes first & foremost. However, is there really anything wrong with finding someone I can hang out with once or twice a week?


No, of course not. I never said there was anything wrong with it. Just that my priorities were different.


At what point would it be okay? My daughter is my number one priority.

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Sun 04/06/08 11:33 PM

I can't imagine looking for a man with a 5 month old to raise. First things first. Raise your child; then you can pursue your own thing. This is what I did. I did not want my child subjected to a string of "uncles". Also, raising a child is pretty much a full time thing. There is not much time for worrying about having a boyfriend. Everything comes in its own time.


I understand where you're coming from, my child comes first & foremost. However, is there really anything wrong with finding someone I can hang out with once or twice a week?

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Sun 04/06/08 11:24 PM

really darling i was joking laughter can get u through some hard timesflowerforyou


I know! That's why I put 50 miles max on my profile... I'm not flying ANYWHERE!:wink:

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Sun 04/06/08 11:20 PM

your criteria states someone approaching you needs to be a female . . . you might wanna change that, otherwise just wait and watch . . . one never knows and should always keep their options open.


It does? Yikes! Thanks for the heads uplaugh

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Sun 04/06/08 11:19 PM

If you say all that, yeah... but you're pretty flippen gorgeous.. they might be more than willing to look past it!laugh flowerforyou



Thanks, doll! I guess that's what I'm hoping

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Sun 04/06/08 11:17 PM
LOL- Thanks, that's reassuring!

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Sun 04/06/08 11:15 PM
I'm having a difficult time putting myself out there in the dating world again. I don't even know where to begin. My ex & I split up when our daughter was 5 weeks old. My mom insisted I move in with her so I wouldn't be stuck taking care of a newborn alone & I'm in the process of a career change. My daughter is now 5 months old & I cannot help but wonder if virtually every guy would run from me knowing my situation. I have so much to offer, have a heart of gold & my sanity is well intact considering recent stressors. I don't feel desperate, I just miss the companionship a relationship offers. Which brings me to my original question: Should I even be on here? Or would most guys view me as baggage ridden?