Years ago I came to terms with the fact that I'm just not a "normal person." (Or woman!)...I accepted that I'll never be every man's "dream woman" or "cup of tea" due to the fact that I'm so "different."...So I stopped competing and entering into "races" for "normal guys." (Since I'm not "normal" myself!)...I accepted that it would be like searching for a needle in a haystack to find a man who would be a good "match" for me!...Eventually I found a "non-normal man" who was a great "match" for me. And we had a happy life together and a 24 year marriage. (Until he passed away. Sad!)...One "size" doesn't really "fit" everyone! We don't "say yes" to every salesperson who comes knocking at our door. Most of us are selective when it comes to deciding what we want to buy. (Or not!) And I feel the same way about relationships...I'd rather "hold-out" and "go without" than settle for a "bad fit" or "match!"

My boys are still young, so i have no time (or the will) to go out and mingle. But the nights do get lonely and i find myself wanting some one there with me. How do you guys cope with it? Dating is really a new thing to me, i dont know where to even start. Any tips?

Regardless what some articular says if there is no attraction what so ever there will not be a second date.

If he is rude and crude and a totally azz there will not be a second date.

There has to be something that attracts me to him as him to me...Be it his personality ect .....I've never figured out why some want to keep dating even if there is nothing that catches their attention to want that second, third or forth date..

At times if I'm not sure then sure I've went on a second date to make sure...But I will not go on a third if there is nothing there...after the second one...

I did read the link and actually it is pretty good.

You are so right if there's no attraction so whats so ever than there would be no second date; that could be anything from his smile to the things he say on the first date. My advice would be to make the first date a day he/ she would remember. Have great conversation and so forth.

I can respect you for holding true and strong to yourself. You owe yourself that much. Don't put yourself through meaningless heartache or with just any guy to whom you may not see in your future. Find a man that meets your needs and that you can meet his. "Don't be a woman that needs a man, be a woman that a man needs." And vice verse.

well I am off to bed... Gn!!!

This is why I have friends in my head.

where we headed?

yes many of us are cracking open the Ninth or so natural ice.... found that comment as dêep as the Peter north flick that was on.

pretty. heavy. for a Saturday night post lol Yeah I am looking forward to the holidays .... love the fall ... good time to be lonely lol

I mean bittersweet is fitting with the leaves changing and all

Just pick an 80%er and beat his azz till the other twenty percent shows up.