What?! Ha ha, don't listen to her, she's not the girl I'm talking about, I've never met her before! :-p

Um...ha ha I will decline that offer. :-p

So I've been talking to this girl online recently. I've VERY flattered that she took the courage to message me, and she seems really sweet, and I think we have a lot in common. The problem is, the more I look at her pictures, the more I realise there's probably no way I can make myself physically attracted to her in a romantic or sexual way. I know it's a harsh thing to say, and physical attraction isn't everything, but it's an important component that has to be there. Because she's very nice, I tried to convince myself that maybe there's a way, but now I've come to terms with the fact that I don't think I could "make" myself physically attracted to her. :-(

It seems that telling someone, "I'm just not attracted to you physically" is a really mean and hurtful thing to say. It destroys their self-esteem. I know I wouldn't like it. But lying to them and saying, "I'm just too busy right now" could come back to bite you in the ass when 3 months from now she sees that you're in a relationship. Continuing to keep her dangling, and keeping her hopes up seems also unconscionable, and wastes both of our time.

Do I "owe" her a first date? Would it be easier or nicer to reject her after giving her a "chance"? Or would it be more morally wrong to have made her go out on that date, even though you've already written her off in your mind? I know many would say, "pictures can lie both ways", but I've seen plenty of pictures of her, and I'm quite certain she's not my type. :-(

I guess this bothers me very much because she is a very nice and sweet girl, and I wish I didn't have to hurt her feelings.

Present.

Oh wow, that's the most romantic thing I've ever heard not from "the Notebook!" Great to hear stuff like that happens in real life.

Ha ha, I think a lot of girls feel like if the guy shows too much interest, it's too easy, and they lose interest. They want to feel a sense of accomplishment. If the guy appears cool and detached, the girl feels nervous, off-balance, and feels the need to compensate by working to impress the guy and get his attention. In a nutshell, reverse psychology. Ha ha, but what's the point? I understand all this theory, but when I am actually out there dating, I'm that guy who texts, "I like you". Theory and practise are very different. But she texted me back, so maybe she's more like you, and it's all good ;-) Bless everyone!

I GOT A REPLY!! "I enjoyed ur company. what r u doing friday evening-would u want 2 come 2 my friends art show?" Okay she's a bad speller, but... :-D :-D :-D <3 <3 <3

Awwn, I wish they were all like you ;-) I think the best explanation is the Charlie Chaplin(?) quote, "I'd never join a club that would have me as a member".

Well, it's been about an hour...hopefully her phone is off...or better yet, broken.

HA HA HA "I lick you", I think we have a winner...

I met this great girl on JSH and we had our first date yesterday. Today she text-messaged me to thank me for a "great meal and conversation". I texted her back, "I like you ;-)" Damn it, I can't BELIEVE I did that!! What the frack was I thinking? You never let the girl you like her, it's all over now, I'm creepy and desperate as far as she's concerned. :-( Ugh...(I'm being half-serious).