Wow! Do you ever like to ask loaded questions. If the men in here who have any hope of meeting a woman in here answered this question honestly they would probably blow their chances. Answering this honestly for most men is a NO WIN proposition.

However, since I think it's unlikely that the woman for me has made an appearance on this site (I'm only interested in local women) I'll give it a shot.

Let's start with the profile.

1. Only one photo and it's not a very good one.
2. The profile reads like every other profile.
3. Minimal information about interests, background, preferences, etc.
4. Lists interests that wouldn't attract most men

If you're asking about women in general, here are the general complaints.

1. Don't like her appearance - not HWP (height weight proportionate), too short/tall/wide/slim/whatever
2. No sense of humor / goofy sense of humor / strange sense of humor / very sarcastic sense of humor.
3. Not a good match in terms of intelligence, values, goals, etc.
4. Inability to communicate well, uneasy about communicating, talks too much, talks too little, conversation is a lost art with her.
5. Has attitudes about romance and sex that are a lot different than mine.
6. Rigid personality - my way or the highway.
7. Arrogance that would take your breath away.
8. Talks trash about her ex, her family, her friends, her employer, nobody is good enough her and everybody did her wrong.
9. Brings too much emotional baggage into the situation.
10. She's no fun.

I'm sure the gents could add some more to this but I think they'd say it's a pretty fair list.

No date tonight. I had one last night. I'm sure I'll find some cute and pretty women to dance with me tonight!!

Hey kid, rest easy. I'm sure there's a cutie out there for you somewhere, sometime, someplace. It'll happen for you.

No I don't think so.

What you're not getting is the men were asked to pick the ONE trait they thought was most important to them in a woman they considered "relationship material".

It's not the ONLY trait they considered important....but they had to pick just one.

If you think about it, the answers make sense.

If a woman is disloyal then whatever other traits she possesses don't really matter. Do they?

It does make one wonder who has more of an axe to grind.

I just love how these threads digress and EVERYONE has talk about their agenda instead of answering the question.

First of all, this question is FOR MEN, not for women.

Second, do not confuse ANATOMY with PERSONALITY!!

Third, the choices are the choices. Don't try add to them. If you choice isn't there, answer OTHER!!

Here are the survey results from AskMen.com.

29% A sense of loyalty
23% A sense of caring/nurturing
21% A sense of humor
21% Intelligence
6% Other

What is your choice MEN?

I took the answers from a national survey of 75,000 men. I wanted to see how the guys here compare to those answers.

Personally I would place confidence high on the list.

Your personality in your boobs? AMAZING!!

This question is FOR MEN ONLY. Women can comment but I want the guys to answer with their preference.

What is the most important personality trait that makes a woman "relationship material"?

1) A sense of loyalty
2) A sense of caring/nurturing
3) A sense of humor
4) Intelligence
5) Other

The answers are the ONLY CHOICES. If yours isn't there, answer OTHER.

TY

This Schlitz is for you kid!

Sounds good to me! Any lovely ladies want to spoon with me and fall asleep?

Money and attitudes about money aren't usually discussed much at the beginning of a relationship but they are crucial to the long term survival of the relationship.

While you don't have to agree about everything, big differences in how you handle money are going to lead to big problems.

If you're conservative with your money and he's a spendthrift spending everything he earns it's never going to last.

What are your special talents? I mean those outside the bedroom? hehehe

Seriously, think outside the box. While you can do the typical looking a job ads and sending out resumes, what you really should be doing is finding businesses or occupations that really interest you.

Once you've identified some good prospects then start finding people who know people to network your way into an opportunity. Send your resume to businesses you admire and tell them why you want to work for them.

This actually worked for my old girlfriend. She had loads of experience managing restaurants but also had a huge interest in wine. I told her to send her resume to the restaurants that had the best wine lists that she admired. She did that and within two weeks she heard from a five-star restaurant that had been looking for someone like her. She now has a job she loves and it keeps her so busy she doesn't have time for me anymore!

At least three

1. Awesome sex!
2. Great wine!
3. Good smokes!

Now if I could get all three from a tall sexy woman with smarts my life would be heaven!

You're obviously a very literate man and that's great to see. Please keep posting as often as possible. We need more posts that makes sense instead of nonsense and drivel.

Talking trash about their ex is the quickest way for a woman to get the exit...without the interview.

I don't know why some people seem to keep wanting to revisit the pain of a breakup and stick pins in themselves or cut themselves again and again so they can feel the pain again. GIVE IT UP!!

Well-mannered kids tell me a lot about a woman. It tells me not only what kind of parent she is but what kind of person she is. Granted kids, especially adolescent kids, can be a handful sometimes, but if she can't control how her kids behave around adults then I don't think I really want to know her any better. If she continually makes excuses for them then I really don't want to know her better.

I have made a couple of great lady friends on this site. Unfortunatley they live more than a thousand miles from me and I'm not interested in a long distance relationship. But they're a lot of fun to write and read their mail.

I'm still waiting for someone local to show up on this site that can hold my interest. Wherever Ms. Right lives, Mingle2.com is not her current address.

Some people really need to take a break from dating after a long relationship has broken up. I don't know about you but I don't want to be anyone's "rebound relationship".

The first date is supposed to be airport talk. It's general. It's finding out mutual interests, similar experiences, and other interesting things about this new person. Most of all, the first date is to help you decide if you want a second date with this person.

Talking a lot about past relationships on the first date is very uncool. It shows you still haven't gotten over "them".

You can quickly cover the basics of past relationships on the first date - I was married (X Times), I have (X number) of children, my ex and I (have/don't have) a good relationship, it's been (X months) since I had a real relationship. That's about all that's necessary.

Your guy spending all this time talking about his past relationship was a waste of your time. If he couldn't look you straight in the eye to ask you out a second time it shows he has issues you don't even want to explore. Dump him and move on.

I think that what you say about communication is very true. It's what I hear, not what you say.

I really don't understand a man who misses a woman and doesn't try to call or email her all day.

If he does that then I would say he's just not that into you for some reason. He's saying what he thinks you want to HEAR.

Flarob, you really should stay away from "it seems to me" phrases when it's clear you don't understand much about this. Your allusion to Tax Man is contemptible. I have nothing to hide from anyone. I just tire of dull people talking about things that would put me to sleep. Zzzzzzzzzzzz