I thought the whole purpose or idea behind karma was fairness.

Lets say you wind up hurting someone even though that was never your intention. Do you get bad karma for it? If you do get bad karma, is it fair for karma to work that way?

I know life isn't fair and life can be a *****. I have a sneaking suspicion this is how those phrases because so popular. So what's your take on non-intentional karma?

ABBA - Take a Chance On Me

ABBA - Knowing Me, Knowing You

So sad...boo hoo. I may have to go with another song if this one makes me start crying.

ABBA - The Winner Takes It All

Abba - Fernando

My prayers are with her Erica.

Stay away from those guys in the brown. I heard what they do in the back of those trucks. There is nothing but heartache and misery.

Does FedEx count as a mailman, if so I may be able to set you up.

Or I will go with: Robert Mitchum/Robert De Niro who both portrayed Max Cady in "Cape Fear".

How about Mongo from Blazing Saddles?

Yup, like above. She's ok and knows she has friends (good friends). She's only taking a little breather.

Welcome to the place and have fun!

I'd tell you but you deactivated so it would be like talking to a wall :) which is what I'm doing now I think.

I do not believe it is you being too nice. I think what it comes down to is most guys are jerks and they do not think with their minds but instead with their groin.

It is a tricky thing finding someone who will be faithful at your age as they are into playing the field. It's simple hormones.

My best advice would be to accept it for now at this stage in your life. Do not expect to find the one and only one. If that is what you are seeking then look so someone who is getting out of the clubbing/drinking scene or never went there. Avoid the guys who date around a lot. You will have much better luck when you get older. Don't let this time in your life turn you into a bitter woman. Play it on the sidelines if you must.

You are an attractive person. You are very intelligent and caring. You will find someone so don't give up, just learn from each past relationship.

See how it does. I see a woman that will not roll over and there are some men who appreciate that. I know you have been bothered by a lot of psychos here so if nothing else it will give them a chance to go away. The nice thing about profiles is if it doesn't work you can change it later.

There are nothing but the same type of profiles here so I would bet a few men are not interested in any of them. Maybe add on there you like a man's man or someone with a chopper, or even someone who was sure of themselves like you are.

One word: Spunky.

If some guys only look towards negative things in it they will move on. I think it's a good filter. You get the guys who got the message and can handle you because you are a firecracker. I think a lot of guys like that rather than the bland "hello, how do you do"-type profiles. It's you.

Take care Lilith.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_AkdjGrLYQ

Your sorry eyes cut through the bone
Make it hard to leave you alone
Leave you here wearing your wounds
Waving your guns at somebody new

There's too many people you used to know
They see you coming, they see you go
They know your secrets, and you know theirs
This town is crazy, nobody cares

I'm tired of fighting, I'm tired of fighting
Fighting for a lost cause
There's a place you are going
You ain't never been before
No one laughing at your back now
No one's standing at your door
That's what you thought love was for

The way I read it he brought her up three times as he could not think of what to say. He turned to a topic he knew all about and could discuss at length. He could not talk current events or TV as he doesn't know about such things.

Everything fits in with his nervousness. I think the bartender thing of him making faces was unprofessional. "told the bartender the deal to keep an eye out." He never stood much of a chance even before the date started, did he? Maybe that was too harsh, he had points against him before the date even started, is that fair to say?

Not being critical, it didn't work out but why is it that hard for you to find a match? I keep hearing the same thing from other women. You aren't alone. I can see your mind clicking as the date starts like a referee in a boxing match. Have you ever just experienced another date without being judgmental until it was all over? Is it really that bad out there?

I want you to meet someone Lilith and be happy. I hope you don't take it any other way. You are engaging and you should not find things this hard. I know most guys are jerks. Still I would think your net would have pulled in something good by this time. You know how to filter people through written communication. (You think I'm a good person right? ) I just think there must be something up with how you are doing this Lilith. I wish I knew what it was and I don't want to turn you into someone who doubts themselves as your confidence is wonderful. Maybe it is that dooming them before they even start. Maybe it is all those past losers and the comparisons that go on through out your date. Maybe it is your pre-screening.

My advice is to change things up. You are doing the same things and getting into a rut. Take along a video camera next time and film the date like you were on 20/20. Let's see what really goes on....actually I wonder if recording a date and playing it back later would be revealing to you.

Here's an idea for a date. Grab 50 dollars and head to an Indian casino. There is more security there than at a bar so you will feel safe. The moment you park your car will be watched. You don't have to talk all the time with him. You will both be engaged in some other activity that will help keep your mind off of the date. Expect to lose the 50 dollars and try to have fun. Going to a bar or having coffee? It isn't working out there.

Maybe if he was a lesbian that advice would make sense. I am guessing you may be like my sister. Sex is how she found her wife. Gay people are not only the horniest people around but have the least amount of sexual hangups in the world.

No this is a guy is likely afraid of women. He needs that friendship thing first. I do too. I am terrified of women. Petrified. Just ask all my friends. I mumble and stumble stammer with little banter. Oh and then there is the meeting, "what are you looking at, is it my hair?" Guys are messed up mentally let me tell you.

Humdinger - now that's a funny word. Why did I say that? Yeah it's time I went to sleep.

Ok relationships thats what this is about. Here is what you do. You talk to people. You be completely honest. You be yourself. No games, keep it real. Now the other person will either like the you or think you are a big jerk. I've been on both sides of that and let me tell you I am who I am. So if one person doesn't like you they are idiots, start talking to someone else. (You must believe them to be idiots or else your confidence goes. No they are freaking idiots if they don't like the real you.)

Eventually find someone who likes you for being you and then friendship see if there is any chemistry or if she just wants to keep it on the "hello how do you do, stop looking at my breasts level". Actually don't look at womens breasts it's rude and juvenile. Ok you can look but just don't stare.

Talk, don't gawk or you'll walk.

He was cheated on and came here for "advice". So he got a double karma expresso late whammy.

Oh and his wife is now with a UFC wrestler and he also mentioned he is a firefighter. What a way to pick up women...it's funny though how guys are sensing something isn't quite right.

Because (whether he realizes it or not) he is playing with peoples emotions. He is not being completely honest. He is setting up another woman AND himself for another failed relationship.