Abegirl,
It depends on what you want want in life. You have goals and relationships should help and achieving those goals and likewise for your partner.

People are difeerent and it takes time to understand our partners but sometimes we are impatient.

The world we live in now pretty much forces us to do things we really don't care about, MONEY, POWER, SUCCESS, etc.

You have to consider what is really good for you and if you already have a child, consider what is god for the child as well.

Not to be rude or insulting, but women don't really know what they want until they see it, most times it might be right before them and they still won't see it.

So really, do what you want and not what she wants, but whatever you do must not cause discomfort to her.

And you can also do what she wants, sometimes when she wants it and other times when you want to.

Its really a balance between good boy and bad boy.