Every woman wants something different, same as men. There's certain commonalities like honesty, trust, communication, make me laugh, etc but some ppl need to see the goods before they decide if they even want to talk to that person (many men are this way, and women can be too)and others are happy enough getting to know someone first and letting nature take its course.

There's no right or wrong answer, no "one size fits all". For me, I enjoy getting to know someone because honestly who cares if they're hot when they can't hold a decent conversation? Life and relationships don't happen in the bedroom 24/7 even if we want it to lol. You usually have to talk to the person once in awhile ;)

Love finds you. We don't choose who we love, it chooses us. I've been very compatible with previous bf's, but love? Nah. it was mostly just compatibility; that one person you could tell anything to because they just get you. That's not love, although it can lead into it. Love comes later, after time, when ppl grow together and stay compatible. That's what real love is, to me. It doesn't fizzle out because it's based in compatibility that grew into something bigger and both people enjoyed it enough to work at it and keep it going when times got rough.