if you think men are the problem try dating a woman..you'll quickly find out that just about everyone's an asshole

no. we don't. but there are many women no better than men in this way anyhow. the idea that a man is more likely to be a **** in a relationship is a myth. i've found many women try to be domineereing and controlling. or jealous. and even if maybe men might be a little more likely to have an affair, it seems like it's much hard to get a woman to give youthe time of day in the first place. women are more selctive, which forces distant men who can wait to be emotionally involved to be the most succesful at getting with them, which means women end up with distant men, who are more likely to leave them. it's sort of a viscious cycle. plus it's pretty well established that people are mych more likely to continue a relationship with someone all their friends like. but this of course can lead to other problems, as you've experienced. in a any event, i'm sorry you've been f****d with. It sucks for anybody who it happens to.