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Thu 02/09/12 09:29 PM

For me, it will depend on who is calling me the cutesy names. From a guy I like? Sure. A complete stranger? No thanks.



Even if it's a guy I love/like...I can't stand it. Hahaha.

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Thu 02/09/12 09:28 PM


Am I the only one who dislikes being called "baby"? I mean, I'm just not that type of girl who likes stuff like that. It's weird. Hahahaa, ok awkward rant done.

You're OK, ba . . . err . . . lady.

Whenever I call my daughter Radiance "Baby", she knows that I am expressing my great love for her. She grew up not having a father. So, after I adopted her, I let her know that I love her just as if she had been born my baby daughter.

By the way, I don't suppose you are familiar with the theme song from the old "Sonny & Cher" TV show.


Oh god, how can I not be when my mother was obsessed with Sonny and Cher. Ahhhhh!!


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Thu 02/09/12 08:47 PM
Edited by amaeb22 on Thu 02/09/12 09:16 PM
Am I the only one who dislikes being called "baby"? I mean, I'm just not that type of girl who likes stuff like that. It's weird. Hahahaa, ok awkward rant done.

OhmygodwhyareyoumessagingmewiththatI'mnotsexyahhhhstoppp! Oh god. It's too funny.

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Thu 02/09/12 08:43 PM


I never thought I'd give dating sites a try but well, here I am. I'm very shy, but I have my brave moments. I'm 22, I have one son, and I'm currently separated from my (soon-to-be-ex) husband. I'm looking for companionship, and then maybe something stronger down the road (relationship, etc). I'm not very good at talking about myself so I will cut things short since I'm feeling sheepish, haha.


Welcome to mingle, I am new to all this to
but it's not as bad as you might expect.

A lot of good people here to make friends
with even if you don't find "The One".

It can be hard being recently separated,
just be strong and try to have some fun :)



I've made a few friends already.
This really is a friendly place.

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Thu 02/09/12 08:32 PM

He was not a good person, nor a good husband or a good father. I just hate how he moved on so quickly, like he doesn't even mourn the loss of me. I know it sounds conceited, and I wouldn't wish anyone sadness, but I was his first relationship and marriage. Shouldn't that mean something?


If your soon-to-be-ex has another woman in his life, then he isn't going to feel the same loss that you feel.

The harsh reality is that a man can have a strong sexual attachment to a woman without having a strong emotional attachment.

All too often, a man will tell a woman that he will love her if she gives him sex (with or without marriage). A woman will give a man sex, hoping that he will give her love in return.

Sadly, the situation doesn't always improve with marriage and child birth. I have a prima (female cousin) who was shocked when her husband left her for another woman right after my prima gave birth.


Um, not really. I mean I have a strong support group of close friends, but I feel like I bring a cloud of negativity wherever I go. Sigh.

I know men can be like that, but we were together for 2 years before we had a child. He was perfect even after we first had sex. It started to get worse when our son was born (I love my child, but my husband changed in such a bad way).

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Thu 02/09/12 08:11 PM




. . . I still find myself missing him during the night. . .

amaeb22, what you are feeling is similar what I felt after my wife died. You sense an emptiness in your life, and it hurts.

The healing process takes time. It helps if you can express your feelings in a safe setting. That is why I started visiting Mingle2.



There are a lot of negative emotions between my ex and I, though. He has already moved on and it's only been one month. We're not even legally divorced yet. I can't say I'm any better, I joined this site. Sigh. We became the opposite of what we both wanted in the end.

For what it's worth, I went through a divorce before I met my late wife. Thankfully, my ex and I didn't have a child together.

The difference between a loss through divorce and a loss through death is that, when the loss is due to a divorce, you feel as if you are somehow a failure. The reality doesn't necessarily match the feeling, but the feeling is strong. At night, when you lie alone in bed, you begin playing the "If only . . ." game, and you yearn for someone to hold you.


It's really hard. All of that is true. However I stopped playing the if only game and woke up from my denial. He was not a good person, nor a good husband or a good father. I just hate how he moved on so quickly, like he doesn't even mourn the loss of me. I know it sounds conceited, and I wouldn't wish anyone sadness, but I was his first relationship and marriage. Shouldn't that mean something?

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Thu 02/09/12 08:04 PM



Rumpelstiltskin too. But I have seen him in other TV shows and yummy!

Good show!


I agree about Rumpelstiltskin! And I thought that the sheriff/hunter was super hot. I'm sad that he's not on the show anymore. brokenheart


Seconds that!




I don't know why Rumple is appealing to me, hahahaha.

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Thu 02/09/12 08:03 PM
I recently got into this series and now I'm reading the books. Is anyone else a fan?

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Thu 02/09/12 08:00 PM




I'm currently separated from my soon-to-be-ex-husband, and although he was a jerk (understatement, really) I still find myself missing him during the night. I don't know why, he wasn't very loving or affectionate.. It's just hard.

Is anyone else going through this?
Do you have any tips for me?




I am currently going through this,
me and my ex separated only weeks
ago. Normally moving on would be
easier, but since we have children
we are always in contact and seeing
each other.

She has issues staying faithful and
is already seeing someone else, well
she has been seeing him for months.

I fail and we end up being intimate,
and that makes things worse but I feel
like crap with out those moments of
happiness. we don't choose who we love
and even though a person can be a bad
partner and parent does not me we love
them less.

It ok to have feelings for them and
you seem to know whats best for you.

Things will get easier with time and
there will always be memories of those
good times that that bring up unwanted
feelings. just know that where you
are is better then where you were,
and work on making you and you're kids
happy.



I'm sorry that she has that hold over you still, but even though I miss my ex, and you miss your's, doesn't mean we stoop to their level and give in.

It's painful and lonely, but there are brighter things to life. You have your kids. Hold onto them like I hold onto my son. Be happy you're not homeless, or experienced anything worse.

My husband cheated on me the last year of our marriage but since we had a child, I wanted things to work out for our son. Things escalated into violence and again, here I am: sitting at the table with all sorts of legal work to file.

It hurts, and it probably will for a while, but we have to stay positive.


You sound like a very strong women with
a good head on her shoulders, things will
be brighter and you're right it's the kids
that are important, took a long time to
realize that being together for them was
not best for them.

We made a good move by coming here though,
as we do deserve to find our happiness.



I hope you and your kids find happiness again. You are a very sweet guy. It doesn't make a person weak to cave in, I almost did in the beginning. It makes a person passionate and alive; full of feelings and the ability to forgive someone. It takes a lot to forgive someone whose done something that horrible to you and your family. I don't blame myself for anything, because I know I did nothing to inspire my ex to cheat, and neither did you.

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Thu 02/09/12 07:57 PM




I'm currently separated from my soon-to-be-ex-husband, and although he was a jerk (understatement, really) I still find myself missing him during the night. I don't know why, he wasn't very loving or affectionate.. It's just hard.

Is anyone else going through this?
Do you have any tips for me?




when u are missing him at night (or any time) reflect on a few memories of WHY you are apart

those memories will make u so freakin happy that he is gone that u will enjoy snuggling with a warm blanky.....and you'll appreciate your next hunny by your side that much moreflowerforyou



When I do, I only feel sadder. The reasons we separated weren't good ones. It was a very bad marriage that I tried to keep together but.. yeah.

I'm young, I know this, and that I have plenty of other chances to find the right person, but I'm not sure if I can handle it yet.


I know u will feel sadder but you will also understand within yourself why u are better off right now alone at night for right now. Don't worry about being able to "handel" stuff - just - well, if you find something or someone and it makes u happy - I don;t see a problem there, but that's just me

catch whatever happiness is out there right now

I did that after my divorce and it made some nice memories, a few good friends, and kept me alive - literally...good luck!



I still have to wait for my actual divorce. Uhg, I want everything to be over so I can move on peacefully. He's the type of person who tears up anyone who sullies his name or life.

I understand why we're getting divorced, I do, but I've never been with anyone as long as him. I think that's what hurts the most; how much time and effort and tears I put into that relationship only to have it crumble.

I deserve better, I know I do.

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Thu 02/09/12 07:48 PM


I'm currently separated from my soon-to-be-ex-husband, and although he was a jerk (understatement, really) I still find myself missing him during the night. I don't know why, he wasn't very loving or affectionate.. It's just hard.

Is anyone else going through this?
Do you have any tips for me?




I am currently going through this,
me and my ex separated only weeks
ago. Normally moving on would be
easier, but since we have children
we are always in contact and seeing
each other.

She has issues staying faithful and
is already seeing someone else, well
she has been seeing him for months.

I fail and we end up being intimate,
and that makes things worse but I feel
like crap with out those moments of
happiness. we don't choose who we love
and even though a person can be a bad
partner and parent does not me we love
them less.

It ok to have feelings for them and
you seem to know whats best for you.

Things will get easier with time and
there will always be memories of those
good times that that bring up unwanted
feelings. just know that where you
are is better then where you were,
and work on making you and you're kids
happy.



I'm sorry that she has that hold over you still, but even though I miss my ex, and you miss your's, doesn't mean we stoop to their level and give in.

It's painful and lonely, but there are brighter things to life. You have your kids. Hold onto them like I hold onto my son. Be happy you're not homeless, or experienced anything worse.

My husband cheated on me the last year of our marriage but since we had a child, I wanted things to work out for our son. Things escalated into violence and again, here I am: sitting at the table with all sorts of legal work to file.

It hurts, and it probably will for a while, but we have to stay positive.

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Thu 02/09/12 07:45 PM


. . . I still find myself missing him during the night. . .

amaeb22, what you are feeling is similar what I felt after my wife died. You sense an emptiness in your life, and it hurts.

The healing process takes time. It helps if you can express your feelings in a safe setting. That is why I started visiting Mingle2.



There are a lot of negative emotions between my ex and I, though. He has already moved on and it's only been one month. We're not even legally divorced yet. I can't say I'm any better, I joined this site. Sigh. We became the opposite of what we both wanted in the end.

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Thu 02/09/12 07:39 PM

Been there and done that.....Divorce is worse than death. Death is final, divorce they take part of you with them.

Give yourself time to process all of it, yes it is natural to still think of the other person even if they were not so nice. Learning who you are now (you are not the same person anymore)and letting the process move forward you will move on in you heart and mind.

It really is up to you how long you linger or they linger in your heart and mind?

Best wishes to you!



Thank you. You are right, that they take a piece of you with them.
Sigh. Depressing topic.
:(

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Thu 02/09/12 07:38 PM


I'm currently separated from my soon-to-be-ex-husband, and although he was a jerk (understatement, really) I still find myself missing him during the night. I don't know why, he wasn't very loving or affectionate.. It's just hard.

Is anyone else going through this?
Do you have any tips for me?




when u are missing him at night (or any time) reflect on a few memories of WHY you are apart

those memories will make u so freakin happy that he is gone that u will enjoy snuggling with a warm blanky.....and you'll appreciate your next hunny by your side that much moreflowerforyou



When I do, I only feel sadder. The reasons we separated weren't good ones. It was a very bad marriage that I tried to keep together but.. yeah.

I'm young, I know this, and that I have plenty of other chances to find the right person, but I'm not sure if I can handle it yet.

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Thu 02/09/12 07:26 PM
Rawwrrr, I'm trying! I'm on this site aren't I? Hahaha.

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Thu 02/09/12 07:25 PM
I'm currently separated from my soon-to-be-ex-husband, and although he was a jerk (understatement, really) I still find myself missing him during the night. I don't know why, he wasn't very loving or affectionate.. It's just hard.

Is anyone else going through this?
Do you have any tips for me?


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Thu 02/09/12 07:21 PM
That they are, yes. Hahahaha, but people can be too!

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Thu 02/09/12 07:09 PM
Well, as um shy or timid, not actually being a sheep, hahaha.

Thank you!

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Thu 02/09/12 04:07 PM
I never thought I'd give dating sites a try but well, here I am. I'm very shy, but I have my brave moments. I'm 22, I have one son, and I'm currently separated from my (soon-to-be-ex) husband. I'm looking for companionship, and then maybe something stronger down the road (relationship, etc). I'm not very good at talking about myself so I will cut things short since I'm feeling sheepish, haha.

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