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Bite me....
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I like biting
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A Few Extra Pounds...
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Are you serious? ...I HATE the fact I am over weight. I get SO scared to meet anyone because of it... 
First off hon, if you are upfront and honest from the beginning then why would you be afraid? They already know who they are meeting. Just be truthful. Secondly you are beautiful. No reason to feel that way. I do have to say I can fluctuate a few extra pounds but only to where my regular clothes are a bit tight. But I really like staying in shape. That's important to me. I like staying around 8 or 10, maybe a 12. I'm an hourglass figure and honestly love my body. Hell I turn MYSELF on 
Always upfront! 
Just scared of rejection...some of you may know how that is. I would LOVE to be a 12. I am a 16 
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This size has also become "safe" for me. The less appealing I am to others, the less change and heart ache for my life. Sounds screwed up- I know. I did that, too, for almost 15 years. I missed so much & I did it to myself. Circle goes round and round, doesn't it? If it hadn't been for the fact I was DYING, I would still be there. Now I worry I've gone too far the other way. I still have to make myself look in mirrors & I'm supposed to be average now--but I look the same to me. Coming here is like my first step at getting back into the world, and it's hard. If it's screwed up, at least you have a lot of company. Wow! I am so sorry! |
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A Few Extra Pounds...
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Georgiagirl and Voluptous, I'm so sorry for your losses. I've been there too.
I was heavy before I lost my husband though. My thyroid went, I used to be a skinny minnie so now I've been on both ends of the scale. Guess I'll be staying on this end though since no matter what I've done I can never seem to lose more than 20lbs. Thank you ma'am
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Edited by
Voluptuous
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Sat 11/01/08 12:28 PM
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Forum Rules 12) Multiple profiles are not allowed. You may only have 1 profile per user. Users who are found to have created multiple profiles will have all of their profiles deleted. Tsk, tsk! 
Please...and everyone follows the rules...RIIIIIIIIIIIIIIGGGHT! 
I give her all the credit in the world for PROTECTING herself from a POS that was trying to take advantage of her. Self preservation and Survival is what we are all struggling for out in this dating world. If everyone where as honest as they should have been then we wouldn't have these issues or be forced to play these games. Most people walk away without ever "knowing"- she just seems to be the type of woman that likes to have good reason. ...not one of those wandering life wondering whether or not she may have falsely accused him 
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My close friend and I are the same size but built different.
I have more of an @ss and she has more of a gut... I can honestly say, this woman looks AWESOME EVERY TIME SHE GETS DRESSED! I wish I felt the way she looks!
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I perved you. I think you're hot. I love the toothbrush pic. 
Thank you Sir!
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Look, when I was a bigger guy, I didn't get alot of dates. Not that girls didn't like me, just cause I didn't like the outside of me. Inside, I was cool with me. I have always been active, but I used to eat alot. Yeah, I got made fun of and all, but when I lost the weight and women started to notice me, it still took me awhile to see it...to realize it. I still see myself as that big guy I once was...and I like that fact cause it keeps me grounded. Voluptious, you have a kick ass sense of humor, which is what attracts men to you. Alot of bigger women have this, and it is so sexy to see in any woman. Guess that is why I tend to date women with this body style. Yeah...a lot of big girls say they have to learn how to be funny QUICK because they are lacking in the department of looks 
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no it doesn't sound screwed up. it sounds like what alot of other women experience even me. i'm comfortable in my depression. i'm comfortable in my fat. it keeps me from experiencing hardcore happiness which can only bring hardcore heartache. thats the logic. and thats the flaw. my mummy always told me that if i'm willin to accept it.. and do nothin about it then shut up about it and don't complain. she's a chubscout too and very very right. one day you'll have to make the decision. get off your @ss and lose the weight (start walkin!!) or die and leave your family the sadness of having to buy a bigger coffin like they did to my mom's aunt pauline. thats life. Chubscout...!? 
No...I am about 60 pounds over weight. I don't think I am in any real danger of "Dying" due to my weight. I am a very healthy woman and have been able to maintain my current size (with or without exercise) My doctor says I am very healthy- with the exception of my weight. 
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I can relate totally. For 2 years I sat in a hospital, by his side, and the weight came to me. But you know what? Even when he couldn't walk I was there, and even when he couldn't talk, I knew what would make him comfortable, and the weight and looks didn't mean a thing. I miss my husband too, but this taught me real intimacy. Love yourself and who you are and embrace it. I get down about my weight, but it won't hold me back. 
Thank you
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A Few Extra Pounds...
Edited by
Voluptuous
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Sat 11/01/08 11:53 AM
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are you doing something about it? or are you just letting it rule you? i mean seriously. I'm fat due to depression and PCOS. the medical condition won't allow me to shed the weight that the depression has allowed me (not caused me!) to gain. i work out every damned day of my life ... just to maintain. just to make sure i dont turn out 400 lbs and unable to move. and about someone else callin you fat... 1. who cares? I dont know you but just from reading your posts.. you're better than letting someone else state something about you. 2. is it true? did she state the obvious? i mean when someone calls me fat i look at them and say "thanks captain obvious. you're a real freakin genius aren'tcha?" because its like sayin "hey! you're a human!" duh. no more excuses. k? make yourself strong any way you can and love yourself regardless.. or the depression will eat you alive. I guess I care. It hurts when other people criticize me. I care what others think...dunno why, but I do. I go to the gym but the lack of motivation is there. ...I let it rule me. This size has also become "safe" for me. The less appealing I am to others, the less change and heart ache for my life. Sounds screwed up- I know. |
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Voluptuous...I don't like my body size either.......and need to continue to do something about it, for all kinds of reason. However, I like who I am and have found great confidence in just being who I am RIGHT NOW and not worrying all the time about who I could be. Please allow yourself some latitude here....your a beautiful smart woman. Men would be lucky to meet you! I was told the other night that I am VERY good at a lot of what I do. I know I am a good person and I know I have a lot to offer but the weight is the one thing I have no desire to "control". I have been told I am a perfectionist. I don't push things to an extreme, I just take pride in what I do- no matter how small the task. My parenting reflects my hard work as well. My weight is a constant reminder I have been thrown into a situation I didn't want to be in.
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Are you serious? ...I HATE the fact I am over weight. I get SO scared to meet anyone because of it...
And you don't like text messages from a man's ex either. 
Correct!
Seriously though...She called me fat and the comment was a "LOW BLOW" for me. I am as big as I am for a lot of reasons. It's not like I sit here with a health issue. I'm fat because of depression. When I lost my husband, I let myself go too. My weight is a constant reminder he is gone 
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Are you serious?
...I HATE the fact I am over weight. I get SO scared to meet anyone because of it...
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Guys PLEASE....
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So are you available then?
You read the profile...do it state otherwise? 
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Edited by
Voluptuous
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Fri 10/31/08 11:41 PM
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He is attracted to you, what the relationship is dont matter to a male, We are attracted to what we are attracted to. The EX may be upset because she has been messing him around, and now she cant because he wants you insted of her. I believe this is the case
I don't tolerate scenarios like this very well. I don't understand why people stick around situations they aren't happy in...just move on. The ex wife obviously went out and screwed someone else...DIRTY! 
She is just trying to keep him from having the slightest bit of happiness. He is enabling her behavior- had he put his foot down she wouldn't have dared! 
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Honestly, I think you did a wise thing by cutting the ties with him. I think something is kind of fishy myself. I kind of think that IF he doesn't have something still going on with his babies mama, that would be really shocking!! I know when my "ex" picks up my boys...he doesn't even come in my house. IF he even thought about picking up my cell phone and checking out my numbers on there, I would be really upset. That is an invasion of my privacy and he is showing NO respect for me!! I think you really had no choice but to kick his butt to the curb! In the long run, I think you saved yourself some heartache!! You sure don't need a psycho texting you all the time!! Good Luck
Thank you for your thoughts...
She clearly has absolutely NO respect for him, whatsoever! She just runs all over him. She cheated in the marriage, she left him with all of her bills... But I am noticing he is the sucker for taking it. Not sure what the hell he is thinking... I would get a restraining order on her ass and fight for full custody of the kid before he turns out all screwed up like her! |
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i think you made a smart move, ultimately, he is responsible for the outcome of the situation, had he had more respect for you, he would at minimum locked his cell phone, at maximum memorized your phone number, he didn't manage the situation well roco I know it. I'm disappointed all around. I lost a friend because of someone that shouldn't matter. I honestly don't think he expected her to go through his phone. All he kept saying after I told him the story is "...are you serious?...who the hell does sh !t like that...?" ^ apparently she does. It's so sad he involved himself with someone that is clearly going out of their way to keep him unhappy. |
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If you have an "EX", keep the DOG on a leash with her muzzle on! I have this acquaintance on Mingle. This young man an I exchange emails, ask how each others days are going...we talk over the phone about family issues, blah, blah, blah... Here is the screwed up part: His "ex wife" (according to him) contacted me via TEXT messaging today. She called me a "Fat whore" and told me to leave her husband alone... 
I wasn't offended being called a whore (because I am far from it) However, I was hurt being called fat- 'cause I am 
I text messaged her back and said "Aren't you the whore? Weren't you the one that screwed two other people? Insecure female...tell him to leave me alone." She replied with "hahahahaha tear aww anyways good job getting him horny mm no wonder he was so good i don't mind that i really enjoyed it thank u" ^^^^  How did I get him horny?!?!
I told her she was sadly mistaken, I wasn't involved with her "husband" (I don't know whether or not he lied about his marital status now)...we merely communicate about each others days. Stupid High school sh!t! 
So out of all this, your question is... "How did I get him horny!!??!?!!!" seriously? shouldn't your question be... "why the hell did he lie to me about not having a wife!?" No... I am fine with the questions I asked...had you read the rest of the thread you would have known he actually isn't married- His jealous ex wife wanted him to remain miserable after she screwed two other guys during their marriage. I asked why I got him horny because our friendship was NOT of that nature. |
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Thank you ma'am
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