catch me up!

who, (is doing who?)
what, (in the world were they thinking?)
where, (so I can avoid there or choose to rush there quickly depending on the story)
when, (so I know if it's still hot news or last week's highlights - something still changing like the wind around here I imagine)
why (don't even bother, we never do know why do we??)
and how? (just in case I haven't tried it that way yet)

give me the condensed version - heaven knows I wouldn't want to appear that I don't know what's going on around here!

It's not for everyone.
We've all heard the horror stories along with the fairy tales.
Totally depends on the two individuals involved and what they want.

Aaawww, My Soufie, I knew you wouldn't leave me.

What? Did you all make some obscure New Years resolutions or what?
where are the stoners????

Yep, pretty much sums it up.
See? We aren't that complex.
You now have the handbook.

We will drive you there too though
just give us time.

Sally?
Sally Fields?

Why would you try other sites?
Where else has the most incredible bunch of hooligans to be found??



OH you want to DATE!
nevermind.

well this topic went right off course into the weeds!

Normal is a setting on the washer.
That's the only normal I've ever seen!

" What you learn from your suffering and grief
you might be able to help someone else
who's now in the phase you may have just completed.
Maybe that's what it's all about after all... "
~ unknown

AfriQueen22 - what a relevant topic this turned out to be. Thank you for starting it and please accept my deepest sympathy.

To the many others here that have experienced tragic loss, or natural ones, my heart goes out to you. That sounds so trite but truly, I read every word over and over and my heart hurts for all of your losses.
I wish I could hug each and every one of you and make your hurt go away. But I can't, ... if only it were that easy.

I don't deal with loss well, never have. I tend to go into denial and keep on moving, not allowing the grieving process to actually happen.

I lost my Mother suddenly 5 years ago, my 90 year old Father just three weeks ago after an extended illness. At the time my Mother passed I thought how much easier it may have been to have had some 'warning', the suddenness of one moment here and the next gone was overwhelming.
However, after spending the last year living with my Father as his main caregiver, having the 'warning' did not make his passing necessarily any easier.

Every circumstance is different, every relationship we have with our loved ones different and we all grieve differently. Profound, huh?


However, after reading the experiences on this post , it gives me hope. So many people experience loss, on such a very deep level. Yes, death is a natural part of life - but it is a loss no matter the age or circumstance.
It is inevitable.

Is there life after death? Yes - we must continue to live. Is it easy - not always. You can see from the responses here that there are a myriad of approaches and experiences. There is a lot of heartfelt comments in this post, that I needed to see and digest. I truly believe that being able to share your feelings and experiences is part of any healing process. To know that I am not alone, the only one that ever experienced this - even though our circumstances are so varied, does help me realize that there is hope.

I truly believe there are various stages of grief, there is no timeline for each or any of them and that each stage is not one time only. There are no ‘right or wrong’ answers, just other’s experiences to possibly learn from as we go through our own process and find our own way.

A book I read years ago “When Bad Things Happen To Good People” may be enlightening. Did it have one solid answer? No. But I found it helpful.

Today I feel like the most important thing I can do is be the best person I can be, to take everything my parents taught me and share that - with the family, friends, strangers, whomever. To live my life well and make a difference to someone in need, as my parents did - that is a way to honor them. Tomorrow I may be a basket case again and not want to get out of bed.

My best advice - keep talking, keep reaching out and may you find your way

Shouldn't this be renamed to The Old New Thread?

THAT is a lot of meows!!

Was there a stoner convention out of town and no one invited me!?!?

Where IS everyone??

supper, what to have

Yo doggies

I'm in -- but no windows.
You will keep me in a manner to which I am accustomed, correct??
Oh and I'm bringing the dog and cat.

I may want to come back as Sophie's cat in my next life

Can I get your dog's digits???? I'd love to text that beaut!!

huh?

I have just one question -- do you all really make sense to each other????