Very sensible thoughts set to prose. All too true on the internet love game.

Hey Whisper,

I fully relate to what you're feeling. Earlier this year when my wife split with me I lost a spouse, the extended family that came with her, and then in separate incidents my daughter from my first marriage estranged herself from me and accompanied her estrangement with some nasty words for no reason. So this holiday it's the first time that I'm without a family of any sort and reluctant to try imposing on friends. But I know what you mean- on my end, no family gathering, no family dinner, kids laughing and clamoring for when will they get their gifts, no going together to midnight mass, and no family dinner on Christmas day. My only companion will be the cat.

Maybe next Christmas the setting will be a lot happier for you and me and all those who are spending this holiday season alone.

I think a lot of people on these sites, and indeed in the world itself, don't know what they want. These dating sites do become addicting as I see the same faces on here, singlesnet, match.com, etc, and people lose sight of their ultimate goal- to find that special someone. It becomes mixed in to trying to one-up the last person they went out with to see if there's someone better. What's wrong with trying a second date to see if there's potential? First dates are many times just a meet and greet, there may be anxiety as we all try to put our best foot forward.

If only Hitch were a real person- I'd find the money to hire him!