hey there, how many of you are just fedup with the lies and false fantasy of people pretending to be somthing they are not? well then your not alone.im a 38 male from n.y. looking for honesty in place where im sure its hard to be yourself and betruefull considering where we live but there is a good few men out here so if you can handle the truth the shout it out.

hey and welcome........b

welcome yourseland salutation bygeorge

thaks and good luck to you

hi Jose!! welcome ...NY isn't that bad.....

I take it that u r referring to the city.... I'm in upstate NY and well it isn't soooo bad here.... But people are people and we tend to be what "u" want us to be.... So people change like the wind....

Just feed them with a long handled spoon.... U will find a few jems... but that is why gems are rare.... there will only be a few.... Cherish them!!!!!

Good luck

Welcome Bro Jose it's the same here in Va. we just have to look more carefully and pick the bad apples out of the basket to make sure the others don't go bad. enjoy your stay here,If you ever need a friend I am here for you. I out of here for now will be back later.



Tim

yuor responses are deeply appreciated and yes your all so true but we must first be true to ourselves and not step on thers toes to achieve our own happiness.do you agree! and hello to you to.lol

and im sorry for the mistakes on my writing just shows im not perfect.

In order to be true to one-self u must first know yourself.... we tend not to spend enough time "alone" learning and self reflecting.... at least that is what I have noticed....

We just tend to keep going and going until there is nothing left... never leaving time for number 1.... Expecting others to "make us happy".... or whatever it takes to fill a "void"

Sorry for rambling...

Have a good one

thats okay tonia25 that what the site is for to get whats on your mind out and i love a good conversation with whoever will listen as much as i like do the same.but to your point about making ourselves #1 ive done that in my youth and now tha im older ive learned to put others in front of me first because without sacrifice there no glory and i will sacrifice all for it.

Well in reference to puting one self first.... there is a time and a place for everything sacrifice is one thing.... This is a broad subject...But you have to put everything in prospective....

I was just saying that one needs to regroup.... and many people I know just never do that... they just expect someone else furnish there goals and ideas... with no clue as to what it is they want....

Does that make sense... Kinda hard to do it in this fashion..
Some things get lost in the "translation"

i understand completely and your correct,but i think your refering to adolescent behaviour that many adults still act on by having others fulfill their dreams but as i said not like me thats the purpose of m liking to meet honest person that already doesnt have the delemaof knowing what they want .im sure nothing got lost in your translation of past history but im talking about the here and now. thanks for yourcomment tonia.

I think a lot of people on these sites, and indeed in the world itself, don't know what they want. These dating sites do become addicting as I see the same faces on here, singlesnet, match.com, etc, and people lose sight of their ultimate goal- to find that special someone. It becomes mixed in to trying to one-up the last person they went out with to see if there's someone better. What's wrong with trying a second date to see if there's potential? First dates are many times just a meet and greet, there may be anxiety as we all try to put our best foot forward.

If only Hitch were a real person- I'd find the money to hire him!