Truly I'm not married yet and of course so many things I don't know about marriage but I just think courtship could have taken care of much part of those troublesor wht do u think

Oh Really? I didn't know until you said it.

Oh Really? I didn't know until you said it.

Well,let's wait and see. May be you can help with more information.

Well,let's wait and see. May be you can help with more information.

Honestly you have your point ma. But just that what we don't know at times as humans are more than what we do know. The environment in which man lives is much wider than what even his innermost eyes can see at a time!

I was working on your point and I believe things can work together for good just as I want to take it as a compliment. Thank you.

...(laughs). That may be a hunch does not really exist on this forum because I'm having a good time here. It's interesting being here and I think I should remove that phrase to make things look better. The latter only has to do with my personal interest in the kind of woman I like to marry and nothing more!

But I just hope you will agree with me that one way or the other,it makes things better for the family if your marriage partner has interest in,if not all,but at least some of the things you like to do,for a more harmonious relationship. Even if those things sound unachieveable,an encouragement born out of at least little interest could make a difference. In fact,with time,both of you may still have to bend to accommodate each other's differences and I think this site appreciates that.

Thank you and others for your observation.

Apparently you don't understand what you read in my profile or may be I was the one who didn't make my message clear enough. You are even concluding and interpreting my profile for me and that is why you are mixing issues together and muddling things up,thereby making everything clumsy. Perhaps your confusion lies in my use of the phrase 'that is why I have decided...' that links the vision statement to the marital specifications. But you must know they are two different issues which only bother on my view of the world we are living in,as human beings.

To me you sound more like a pessimist and a cynic. A woman that has the fear of the God that I know and is not intelligent doesn't really know that God,because 'the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom'. Fear,God,wisdom,intelligence. THINK!

Anyway,I still appreciate your bluntness maam.

'...marriage is supposed to be a lifelong promise of love and support'. This is a responsible submission about marriage and it's really nice.

Not as you think. It's not frivolous,deceptive and directionless. Please don't misunderstand me by mixing issues together.

But activism for humanity is not a joke. It is a serious matter!

Not as you think. It's not frivolous,deceptive and directionless. Please don't misunderstand me by mixing issues together.

I don't even believe second marriages exist especially when both former partners are still alive. They are not in my dictionary. Enough of this statement of 'my ex','my ex','my ex...',it's time to attach sanctity to marriages once and for all and make the best out of them.

I don't even believe second marriages exist. They are not in my dictionary. Enough of this statement of 'my ex','my ex','my ex...',it's time to attach sanctity to marriages once and for all and make the best out of them.

Yesssssssssssssssss.

Certainly that is not me. To everyone,please I stand on the mountain top to shout this,without being hypocritical,that I do not need any green card from anybody and that is not the reason for my appearance on this site. My main reason for being on this site is to get to see if I could find the woman that will love me for who I am and get to know some other people too.

I don't even know how a green card looks like and I'v never in my life played visa lottery because it has never interests me. MY DESTINY IS NOT DEPENDENT ON GREEN CARD AND WILL NEVER BE. All I want is heaven's card and I hope somebody will believe that.

Thank you for your concern. But I must say it again that I'm not desperate about anything and that already I'm an asset to my country. I did my national youth service in my college where I graduated from and lectured hundreds of students and impacting knowledge in them and I still remained in the college even after the service year. I'v engaged myself in a number of community services and so on. But the God I serve is a God of vision,times and seasons. My vision is not only to be an unsurpassed asset to my country but to the entire world and you don't do that in your village alone. Exposure is good I suppose. Now hear this,wherever I go,no place like home and that is not going to be without my wife whoever she eventually turns out to be,white or no white. Sorry for sounding so personal here,the question calls for it but at least you know now that I'm not materialistic in my approach. Please see what I said about myself in my profile.

You are correct,everything must be disclosed which I have done already(see my profile and OP). Therefore,I withdraw that statement and funny enough I'm just trying to sound careful myself too!

Well,you have right to your own opinion. But in this case you are wrong because to me,getting a green card through a woman signifies contract marriage that terminates on the expiration of the contract. I will die the day I engage myself in contract marriage because of one green or red card which may even end up terminating one's life especially when God has no hand in it. I believe in taking responsibility for my own life. Where I come from,it is a slap on a man's face if he thinks or depends on a woman for his survival especially when it has to do with cutting corners. In fact it is a taboo!

May be I shouldn't have talked about not disclosing everything since everything has been disclosed already(see OP and my profile). I'm not the architect of my own destiny,God is,so I don't depend on anybody for its actualization. I love my country despite the challenges and I'm not desperate to emmigrate,yet I believe in pursuing my dreams(see OP and my profile) but in utmost good faith.

Of course if you must carry the Spirit of God,you must be humble. You must be as gentle as the dove and as wise as the serpent. Thus,it is expected that in marital relationship you show mutual respect to each other as partners in progress,honour yourselves. When one is hot,let the other be cold and vice-versa. Learn to overlook things,pretend as if your partner has not made that mistake and don't complain everytime. Learn to say sorry,be ready to apologise and say thank you as the case may be,for sustainability. Above all,recognise God as the ruler of your home just as the man is the head of the family and let the man always seek suggestions from his wife as in always plan together. The husband is not in isolation of his wife and otherwise... So if you now call all this as being 'doormat' then I agree so long it gives me peace in my marriage and it keeps it going!