I agree if you take the time to know each other before meeting it’s more like your happy you finally met. If you rush it is easier to not care to see each each other a second time. But whatever it is your looking for being honest before meeting is helpful and admirable. (Even if we aren’t on the same page)I never do coffee dates and the most unattractive dates is someone who feels why did you go out with him? Don’t tell your date how nervous you are and how beautiful they are 20x’s in one night. For me the date is about finding the common interests or even learning something new about someone else.