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Thu 01/03/19 06:10 AM
Edited by cgo1234567 on Thu 01/03/19 06:14 AM
ill share what happened. She broke up with me with the excuse that she needed to work on herself. admittedly she did have many stressful things going on in her life.
A week into the break up i delete her off of my social media only for her to add me back a month later. Her excuse was that she saw that i got hurt from a sports injury and wanted to make sure i was alright. But what was odd about that was she texted me directly and not over the social media platform.

Few days after our break up i asked her not to contact me because i had to work on myself. 4 month later i decided i was stable enough to reconnect with her so i shot her a text addressing my immaturity during the relationship and apologized for it. I immediately got a response from her saying that there was no reason for me to apologize and in fact she thought it was mostly her fault the relationship failed. We texted for another 3 hours and in that time she revealed that she really wanted to text me but AND I QUOTE "didn't have the guts to do it" and also she still felt guilty about the break up.

Second thing she brought up during our conversation was the amount of guys and girls that has hit her up during our period of NC. In fact she told me several stories but to keep it short she told me all of them were just trying to hit and rejected them completely.

Finally she opened herself up to me about struggles she has been having in her life. She told me she felt depressed, had trouble with friends, and overall having trouble with life. In the end she said she was glad she opened up to me because she felt that i was so easy to talk to and could open up to me about things she couldn't normally with friends or family.

The next night she mentioned she wanted to face time me but couldn't do it because she still felt guilty. After that we didn't talk for another week until we bumped into each other again. I didn't see her at first but when i did i hanged out with my friends for about an hour before going over to her and making short conversation. After this i went back to my friends to hang out.

I mentioned the increased social media posts because before we bumped into each other her social media posts were rare and mostly included quotes about self love and songs about break ups and love.

After this we didn't talk for another month until we bumped into each other yet again. I was with mutual friends and she decided to come up and greet them then proceed to come up directly to me and talk. she hanged around me for another hour before leaving.

Recently she sent out a mass text wishing everyone merry Christmas. I decided to just send a merry Christmas back since i sent one to everyone but her. She opened it and asked me a question. I responded to her question around 2 hours later and got an immediate response saying that she was surprised that i was still up this late. I replied with what i was doing that kept me up so late and said i was going to sleep soon. She wished me good night and i did the same.

She also sent me a new years text that i did respond to

overall it has been around 6-7 months since the break up now but this is the most confusing break up i've ever been in because i have no idea what shes after

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Thu 01/03/19 04:57 AM
its been 6 but we reconnected 4 months ago

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Thu 01/03/19 12:54 AM
when we reconnected 4 months after our break up she told me she wanted to contact me too but was too afraid to do it but was really glad I contacted her. There was no bad blood. We bumped into each other a week after contacting each other and she went cold on me after because she saw that I was enjoying myself being with friends. A week later she started posting lots of selfies and hangouts that made it seem she was happy so I sent a text telling her that I was glad she was feeling better. She looked at it but didn't respond so i didn't contact her. We bumped into each other again a month later and she decided to come up to talk to me. After that i didn't hear from her until she sent me a Merry Christmas. I decided to sent one back and she picked up on that and we talked for about 5 minutes. Again she sent me one for new years too but i decided to not send her anything.

My question is that before she felt too shy and guilty to contact me but now she is initiating contact and trying to be my friend. Why is she trying to be my friend again? what is her goal?