Exactly my thoughts. And this is exactly what went wrong with my last one. She had (still has) some trust issues from her first relationship, that she carried into the one with me and I always knew this wasn't gonna do us any good. I stood by her all the time, never complained one bit about her terrible mood swings (she is bipolar) and she still never managed to open up enough to let me in completely (no pun intended). I was the best friend she could have ever had, and she trusted me with her best kept secrets and all, but as for getting a bit more serious about the our future together, she didn't think it was necessary. She still wants me back and I can tell that from the way she wants to talk to me or get closer in general, and I try and be a friend (a very casual one) but that's as far as I can let myself go into it. There's only a limit upto which you can help a person mend psychological issues without her realizing that it indeed is an issue that needs her attention. If she doesn't want to fix it or doesn't wanna identify it as a problem in the first place, there's precious little you can do about it. Over time it starts to mess with your head as well. I didn't have a choice but to let go.

Just joined.