Ah but signals are messy. Some people are just naturally flirty. Sometimes its just "being friendly". I've had situations where the girl acted very interested so I ask her out then get shot down. And situations where they acted disinterested then actually pursued me.

roll tide roll

So all my friends think I have "lost puppy syndrome", that being when a girl shows me attention I become her puppy. I follow her around constantly give her anything she wants, treat her like a queen and dote on her affectionately.

I don't think its a bad thing. In my opinion, my role in a relationship is to make the woman feel loved, appreciated, sexy, wanted, and special. So I do what I can to show her that she is. Also I think it's a woman's role to make the man feel appreciated, strong, and special. Not all of my ex's have done this for me but it's nice when they do.

What do you think forum?

Am I a romantic?

Or.

Am I a codependent fool?

I "courted" one girl for 3 months before I would agree to "date" her. She seemed really into me, wrote me poetry and got all starry eyed. Finally I trusted her enough to get into a full exclusive relationship and one year later she just ups and decides she doesn't want me and goes back to her ex.

...

I need to just start polygraphing potential girlfriends...

All my friends are tired of hearing me complain so I'm just going to rant here. I'm tired of being the placeholder for other guys.

In my last 5 relationships (meaning I dated them for more than 3 months exclusively) I've been left and told this. "Your a great guy and I really like you but I'm sorry I'm "in love" with someone else."

I just don't get it, if I'm such a great guy how come they never "fall in love" with me? Why do I feel used like I was just someone to occupy their time while they waited for their "one true love" to come back?

Four of the five girls left me for an ex that came back into their lives. One dated me just to try and get to my best friend claiming to have loved him from afar for years.

What do you think? Am I just on a pity party and being emo about this? Or do I have a valid reason to feel used and unappreciated? I just hope the next girl to come into my life will date me because they actually want to be with me. Not because they are trying to get over someone else.