Oh yeah, DON'T GET BENT!


John111,

I'm a Scuba instructor that just left Andros island in the Bahamas. They have the most amount of blue holes per square mile in the world. I'm on my way To Cancun next month. You'll enjoy Belize's reef system. It's the 2nd largest in the world (#1 Great Barrier, #2 off Belize #3 off the Bahamas). Please don't dive in a black hole unless your with Nasa...and even then that'd be a little crazy. Have fun, dive safe, and bring your mosquito repellent.

Going to Belize in December.... It's on my bucket list!

Scuba the black hole... I can hardly believe it's booked

If I am getting you right, then I think there is nothing to do, but do it. I can't say I had a similar issue, but I did think at one time that it was difficult talking about difficult stuff (damn I should have been a scientist with that reasoning ). Anyway, to try to cut myself short, what I did was this: I'd ease my way into it, except it was rather awkward.

It could go something like...

Me: I want to say something.
Person: yes.
Me: Well there is something I've been thinking about.
etc etc

My point is, when you do open your mouth, don't think it should all come out neat and ordered like it is in your head, don't try to get it all out. Start small, one word at the time. Remember, use pauses, they are great for people to think about what you say, and for you to think about what to say next.
Don't be afraid to say, scratch that, I didn't mean it, or any such thing.

My guess is you're like to do things right and the first time too, but talking just isn't like that, at least not before after a lot of practice and still it's a game of cards to make it hit the spot. But that's not what's it is about. Just do it, a little bit at the time, and that will slowly get you used to it. It's like getting used to cold water, in the beginning you think your nuts are gonna fall off, but if you keep moving eventually it'll actually feel okay.

And don't mind rambling. I just did this post to prove that point...

Yes...be you. If you are a quiet person who chooses to listen, and think deeply, so be it....and leave the superficial judgemental so and so's to their own direction...they are not you.

You are.


...and by being you, it 'cost' you two relationships?....what did these people think they were getting?...a shallow flippant gregarious superficial chatterbox?

Their loss...and your gain...you have got out from under two not-right-for-you-relationships with a portion of your sanity intact...well done!


Enjoy the time of solitude...embrace the time to learn you, to be you, and to appreciate your uniqueness.

You are very cute... Don't know why you wouldn't have the girls going crazy over you..=)

Funny guy with cute dimples? How could any sane person resist that charming combo?