I dated this one girl who said she couldnt date me cause im Too nice. How is that possible. Im not the type of guy that verbally abuses a girl. I can never get mad at a girl. I always get the door for her, compliment her, show her I care for her. I guess Im an old fashioned type of guy. How do I balance it out so im not TOO NICE.

Actually none of them are from this website... 1 is from plentyoffish.com (michelle).. the other one is from OKcupid.com (Brandi)

Hey guys,

I need a little advice if anyone can help. 1st off I met someone through this website 3 sundays ago. (Michelle). We met at citywalk in Orlando which is like inside Universal studios where we met outside the theater. She is gorgeous. Shes almost 26 years old so shes about 2 years older then me cause I turn 24 in June. She graduated from college and she works with elephants which she gets paid alot for. Anyway..... we went to a bar to have some drinks; I paid for her drink; and we talked for an hour. She said she was really tired because she had to work at 5am that same day but she wanted to spend time with me she said. We went to the movie The Crazies... it was amazing. The movie got out at 2am. I then walked her to her car gave her a hug and kissed her on the cheek.

The next day she called and wanted to know if I wanted to run errands with her. Normally i wouldnt but since I really liked her I said of course. We hung out for 3 hours before she had to go back home.

Our next date was going to the Orlando Magic basketball game. It was her 1st time ever going to a game. We laughed and talked and we looked so good together the couple next to us asked if we were married. LOL. After the game I drove her to her car and kissed her on the cheek again. Well the next day I asked her what she thought of our 3 dates and she said really it was only 1 date. She didnt count the meeting, and doing errands as dates. She said I wasnt romantic enough and she has a 3 date rule that if she doesnt feel anythin after 3 dates then we just be friends. If I knew the Magic game was our 1st official date then i wouldnt have taken her there... cause its not a romantic place.. So thats where I am on that girl. I already got our next 2 dates planned... and let me say there are really romantic.

Ok now the next girl: Brandi

I met her through a different site last tuesday... shes 20 in May. Just got fired from her job and shes prettier then girl number 1. We talked for hours on the Im chat service it has. I gave her my number and she called. She said she was having a party with her and her friend and asked me to come over.. I said ok can I bring a friend because I dont want to feel like I dont know anyone. So i brought my friend and when we got there we were drinking and taking shots of Schnapps. It was just me, her, her friend, and my friend... It was around 10 pm. While we waited for others to arrive we watched a movie... She then laid on me.. I massaged her... I kissed her neck and then we started kissing and making out...She wasnt drunk cause she had only 1 shot and I can tell when a person is drunk. Well at around 12am people were starting to come but they only stayed like 15 mins. After they left, brandi.... the girl that i was kissing... asked her friend if I could spend the night... cause her friend now lives with her. She said she didnt trust me. Brandi begged and pleaded with her but she wouldnt budge. I then asked if we could have some alone time for 10 minutes. She agreed so her an my friend left the apartment and went downtstairs. When that door closed we were all over each other on the floor. I picked her up and took her to her room where we had sex. It was amazing sex too. Well after they got back they pretty much knew we had sex. We then left cause it was really late. i kissed her on the lips and told her to call me later... Now... i never have sex with someone the 1st time i meet them. I only have sex with them If I really like and care for them.

The next day I text her asking if I could change my facebook status to in a relationship with her. She said probably but we need to know each other for more then 1 day to be in a relationship. She said she really liked me though. i agreed on hanging out more before calling it officially a relationship. Well she called me today saying shes going to virginia until wednesday to see her friend who just got married and is lonely cause her husband is in the military. And thats where I am with her today.

Im sorry this is so long. This is the dilemma:

Michelle: almost 26 years old, graduated from college, has a great career, but gives mix signals

Brandi: almost 20 years old, graduated from High School in 06, just got fired from job, but we immediately hit it off and really like each other... also had sex

I know michelle is the better person cause shes successful but she kept giving me mixed signals. Brandi I know isnt as successful but we liked each other from the beginning...

Any advice... Also I have never cheated on a girl and never will