I haven't gotten the hang of those forums... I figured my replies would appear adjacent to the reply-ee. Can't I edit my comments or anything so I can add a quote?

This is very helpful! Thanks for your input. it's too bad you've been met with anger with the effort you put in! cause i feel the same way. maybe once interests seem to clash women give up because they have a "magic man"built up in their mind and have worked him up in their heads that can't be realistically reached. maybe a first contact could be to discuss deal breakers to test compatibility? Or to keep things light until you've grown to accept each other and then test the waters of deeper issues? whatever it is, i feel the most successful lies in a question

lol, that's a little clearer, and I can only speak for myself, but I feel there's not much opportunity for a good reply in that either xD

well, women can get dozens of messages every day, there's no way to keep up with all of them right? so if they're like me then they have a process of elimination. I think a guy could really stand out among the riffraff if he takes the time to read her bio, and ask her a question - especially one about her bio that interests him, but also a genuine question that is important to you :)

first impressions mean everything. If a guy doesn't take the time to grab and hold her attention, why should she? ^^

So I noticed that about 8/10 guys will message a girl with "hey" when he's interested in her, and I was wondering from the men what he expects to hear back. because when I get nothing but "hey" I automatically lose any possible interest because I feel I'm expected to do all the work, but I'm lost as to how. I did some research and found that other girls feel the same way.
here's an example: a guy got my number at a bar once after we had a GREAT conversation, and this is what happened the next few days: 8 "hey" texts in a row, and after I finally texted "hi", I got a "what up" and another 5 "hey". it was quite a let down.

does this mean he's not really interested? he's timid? he's testing me to see if i care enough to do work?
thoughts!

the sky. I'd almost forgotten what color it was

much appreciated, Sweetapholl!

Thanks, Cat

hi, all ^( 'o' ) I'm new here and saw that I'm expected to introduce myself, so what up! ^^ here are some basics about moi: I'm 25, I have a cat, I love the outdoors and deep discussions, and I live in a small town for the time being and just want to meet good people with a sense of outdoor adventure :)