The turning point is when you stop relying on other people and find strength within yourself to reach your goals. I don't mean turn to god and become religious, that's one way to empower yourself but it is false and no better than relying on other people. People are false, deceptive and self serving and there are very few that are not. You can only rely on you and the sooner you can learn that the better. Having someone at your side is nice, the real icing on the cake but them being there can't be expected or relied upon.

It is human nature to rely on those around us but American culture pushes us apart in so many ways including fear and superficiality.

So set goals, long term and short. Take baby steps towards those goals, every step is a small triumph. Get a hobby or healthy addiction to fill the gaps along the way. Get a regular sleep/wake schedule that works for your mind/body and if within your means eat healthy.

You are in charge of your life and if you aren't for any reason then you need to get into a situation in which you are, make a life change because if you aren't happy, what do you have to lose?

Oh and if you regularly listen to hard rap or death metal, stop it. That crap is horrible for people that have emotional issues. But too much soft sad music isn't good either, try listening to upbeat music that makes you feel good.