My fist post and I just have a few questions..
I never imagined dating in my 30s would be so much of a game..You go on a date and there is obvious chemistry..you hit it off really well..afterward you go home and its like a competition to see who will call or text first. Everyone is afraid they are going to scare someone off, afraid to say what they feel. If out send a text message longer than 3-5 words it must mean your obsessive. I just like to talk and communicate. .. men seem to flatter themselves too much thinking that if you text them a couple times a day that you are infatuated..lol.. I'm just looking for a really good friendship and not interested in a soulmate at this point.
Also, as far as sex goes..I mean if you want it, you want it..and just because a woman wants it doesn't mean that she is a slut...lol

I believe in being honest and upfront about what you want and hate playing these stupid games..

So answer me this, why is dating such a game?

well this is gonna be fun...For yourself,quit generalizing...use the term 'The males I have met"..We are all not of one mindset.
You say you do not like games but you are still married? .oh my my...
Now what we have here is a married (Oh yeah Seperated)woman who says that if a woman wants "it"she is not a slut..(the law calls that adultery not slut).Hmm..Only if she acts upon it.That is my opinion...No differant for men, is it,We get called players or male sluts but for you it is okay?
It also seems to me that you picked the worst venue for not playing games...Internet dating by far is a game with hearts at stake....Big gamble......Good luck with your quest whether it be sex or talk or getting a divorce...