I have the flu and feel like total crap!

Welcome to the sight!


I have dated a man in a wheel chair also a vet so it's not the wheelchair that makes the man it's who he is not how he gets around.

But whether it be size, height, hair color, skin color, etc there are always going to be people who will automatically judge or bias their opinion based of exterior qualities.

Not everyone is like that there are those who see the person for who they are and the other stuff is all just details

Good Luck

Children. That is a subject in which stands to be a difficult one. Meaning only this, it is not the child you are dating. Children are meant to be considered with a full, protective heart for they are the innocent ones.

If you are having difficult in deciding on a date because they have children, then it may be that they are not ready for you, or you for them.

The real answer to this question is, "Are you ready"? If the sparks fly, you find yourself smiling and desiring to be with the mother/father who has raised the beat of your heart, then and only then shall the children be a matter to the both of you.

Children have to deal with their world in an upside down view when they see their world changing and one parent is not there for them, or a parent who is absent in their home. It is what they began with and what they believed to be right. And no longer is. What of their hearts pain?

I raised two beautiful daughters as a single dad and that was not an easy task. Many challenges are there for us as single parents, and they are not easy when you so deeply desire to have what is missing as the other half to share the joys, the anguish, the dreams and all the tears from the mending that becomes a part of going the next step.

There is so much more to consider when children are a major part of dreams desired by us as parents. We are the ones they look up to and it is we who they depend on in doing what is right. That leaves us in another issue. The protective shield we place over our hearts. I'm sure you all know what I mean on this one. (Hint) The ones who use our children and the love we have for them as a tool of deceit.

Many Blessings,
SpiritWolf

I could date a man in a wheelechair only if I didn't have to be his care giver.

Hi Sgt Billy,
If a girl cant see past your disability then she aint worth knowing, at the end of the day its your personality and how sweet of heart you are that attracts a person to another.
Sadly society judges us by how thin/fat capable/incapable white/black straight/gay we are and thats just shallow because there are some great people out there you guys with tunnel vision should look harder.
Good look in your search Billy and if you want to chat please feel free to do so and God bless you. Anna x

I've dated both a quad & a parapelegic...so, the answer is yes...

At the risk of being called a shallow b!tch here I will give you honesty...
First if I were to fall in love with a man nothing would stop me from being with him..I don't care if he is purple and has no limbs at all...
As gyspy said sex is an important part of a relationship and I would not want to be in one where that is lacking.
Also I have raised 3 boys for many years alone in every sense of the word. They are grown young men now an I feel now is my time. I put my own needs, dreams and desires on hold to take care of them. I am not so sure if I would want to spend this part of my life having to continue to be a constant caregiver. It has been a huge bag of bricks of my back to have them come to an age where I can do more for me. Selfish..maybe. I have dedicated 25 years to them and now want to put some energy into me..
However, with limited information on your situation this is only a guideline for myself. I am an open minded person and would be open to all possibilities.

I actually did date a man in a wheelchair once. He left me for a stripper

It's what is in the heart that matters.

Or for that matter, could you men date a woman in a wheelchair? Open ended question. Time is running, and you're maturity and intelligence is on the clock. My self, I would say, doesn't matter. If she's in a wheelchair, black, white, asian, hispanic, arab, native american, doesn't matter, wow me with your personality. Please tell me that anger is not your fallback emotion. If you're a kinred spirit, I don't really care if you have no limbs, 2 or 4.

i had several uncles that served the war
i had one uncle that was in the korean war
im not sure about the other uncle
and i have a great cousin that is still in the miltary as well of his own son. and my other cousin is retired from the navy but he works full time in the kitchen as a chief

we had a family reunion last summer in 2008
and there were picture he had shown us the troops in iraq build a building in his name

No fair! You've had a lot more practise than me. Just gimme a couple of months and then we'll see who buys!

well the last guy in a wheelchair who wanted to date me couldnt soooooooooooo......

I like sex too much.....

I think people should be looked at as people not "the man in the wheelchair" or "the blind girl"..I'd give a chance to any woman if she was my type even if she was deaf, I would learn sign language to talk to her..I feel if everyone had the same attitude and open mindness, the world would be a much better place.. Love always,
Your friend,
Safina.
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Thank you safina i agree you do what you have to do to be with the one you love smile