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Thu 12/17/09 03:21 PM
Perhaps the second step is finding out if that fascination is gonna lead to delight or disgust, after you unravel some of the mystery.

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Wed 12/16/09 10:12 PM
thank you all so much.flowerforyou

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Wed 12/16/09 03:44 PM
Love it. I've had a thing for palindromes for a while now. Check out "The Poisonwood Bible" if you haven't already!

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Wed 12/16/09 03:34 PM
These are the things that we carry
Until time makes us let them go.
These are the things we hold onto
Because this is what life's let us know.
These are our burdens to bury
Until rage grows too fat for our skin;
And these are the ways
We break down to our knees
To gather what once stayed within

Mom does the crying while
Dad does the breaking while
Boys do the lying and
Girls do the faking, it's
Just like the movies, it's
Just like the songs we
Never put out names in but
Still sang along..
And money is lacking and
Time's running out as
We rise to the races and
Swallow the doubt, saying:
"I know much better, won't happen to me!"
It's amazing what blindness will
Lead us to see.

These are the things that must matter
Because they keep returning again.
These are the vain misconceptions
We hope will be right in the end.
These are the things we attain to
Expending our last energies;
Hanging onto those seconds
Of love, lust and learning...
Redigesting our best memories.

The waves do their crashing as
Each sun falls down, lighting
Constant contrast between
The sky and ground, with
Our toes in the sand and
Our eyes to the stars, saying:
"How did we get here? It all seems so far..."
And did this desperate planet
Allow us to sing or
Were we disconnected by
All of these things
All of these things
All of these things that we know...

These are the things we must look at:
An old couple walks, hand in hand.
These are the things to remember:
What heavy rain does for the land.
These are the things to grasp onto:
Conversations between two wallflowers...
Taking one step away from the struggle
And transforming those seconds to hours.

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Wed 12/16/09 03:34 PM
These are the things that we carry
Until time makes us let them go.
These are the things we hold onto
Because this is what life's let us know.
These are our burdens to bury
Until rage grows too fat for our skin;
And these are the ways
We break down to our knees
To gather what once stayed within

Mom does the crying while
Dad does the breaking while
Boys do the lying and
Girls do the faking, it's
Just like the movies, it's
Just like the songs we
Never put out names in but
Still sang along..
And money is lacking and
Time's running out as
We rise to the races and
Swallow the doubt, saying:
"I know much better, won't happen to me!"
It's amazing what blindness will
Lead us to see.

These are the things that must matter
Because they keep returning again.
These are the vain misconceptions
We hope will be right in the end.
These are the things we attain to
Expending our last energies;
Hanging onto those seconds
Of love, lust and learning...
Redigesting our best memories.

The waves do their crashing as
Each sun falls down, lighting
Constant contrast between
The sky and ground, with
Our toes in the sand and
Our eyes to the stars, saying:
"How did we get here? It all seems so far..."
And did this desperate planet
Allow us to sing or
Were we disconnected by
All of these things
All of these things
All of these things that we know...

These are the things we must look at:
An old couple walks, hand in hand.
These are the things to remember:
What heavy rain does for the land.
These are the things to grasp onto:
Conversations between two wallflowers...
Taking one step away from the struggle
And transforming those seconds to hours.

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Wed 12/16/09 03:12 PM
Welcome! And the very best of luck to you!

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Wed 12/16/09 03:06 PM

are you two in a committed relationship? i mean, i know that you say that you two have been going out for 2 months but does he feel the same way as you? i guess...just ask him point blank if he is wanting to be with you and only you. if he gives you a non clear answer...then you will have your answer.
flowerforyou

I completely agree with this guy...I recently became involved with someone and changed my profile from "looking for a relationship" to "looking for friendship". If your boyfriend is committed to you, he might think to do the same.

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Wed 12/16/09 03:01 PM
I enjoyed the pictures. It may help to state a little more about who you are and who you're looking for...I only say this because you have down that you're seeking a relationship, not a casual thing.
Best of luck to you!

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Wed 12/16/09 02:51 PM
I believe that a good deal more goes into maintaining a relationship than friendship and physicality.
Communication...not being afraid to speak your heart or your mind because you accept each other for who you are.
Compromise...total self-sacrifice is debilitating, but being able to bend towards each others needs or dreams, without resentment, is a must.
Separate friends and passions. It's important to remain individuals in order to fully appreciate each other as well as to have channels for your negativity besides your loved one.
Just a thought. Much luck and many blessings.

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Tue 12/08/09 05:36 PM
laugh laugh laugh :smile: flowerforyou

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Mon 12/07/09 05:00 AM
I agree. LDR's take a hell of alot more conscious effort than dating someone in your home town. If you are a man of strong willpower and consistancy and she is a woman of the same...if communication is GREAT, then I think it's well worth it.

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Mon 12/07/09 01:06 AM


mad props for that one musikman.


Didn't mean to diss your occupation.

I spoke with a doctor early on in my divorce & he decided I should try Paxil. I took half a pill and a few hours later I had to pull over my car cause I felt like I was going to pass out, which I did. I drove home after & spent most of the night on the toilet. That's some powerful **** to mess with your body like that. I won't touch the stuff.

I don't blame you. I've been on Paxil too. Btw, I'm a talk therapist, not a pill doctor, so don't worry about offending me. I really did enjoy watching the entire series you posted.

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Sat 12/05/09 06:40 AM
mad props for that one musikman.

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Sat 12/05/09 06:37 AM
Queensryche and Dream Theatre.

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Sat 12/05/09 06:34 AM
Everyone! Take what works and leave the rest. Best wishes to you all.

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Sat 12/05/09 06:29 AM
lol, 8ish

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Sat 12/05/09 06:18 AM
I had a date once with someone I met on mingle. It felt more like a bad science experiment and I'm just really glad it didn't explode. Wish me better luck next time. Think I'll need it.

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Sat 12/05/09 06:14 AM
When I gave my old boss my 2 week notice he was very upset. He asked me why I was leaving and I told him that I wanted to pursue a literary career. For Christmas, a week later, he gave me an engraved pen that said "best of luck". For some reason that touched me deeply.

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Thu 12/03/09 09:45 PM
Define "ugly" as beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And define "old" while you're at it.
You're bound to get mixed reviews if you post a question like this, because each individual is of an individual opinion. So what is it you really want to know?
That SOMEONE thinks you aren't and Someone thinks you are?
Start with yourself, because that is what matters most.
What do you think of you?
Confidence is beauty, strength and endurance.

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Thu 12/03/09 09:37 PM
To speak up doesn't necessarily mean to flip out. I've found that to reply to a heated comment with another heated one will only make the fire worse.
She obviously does not have respect for you and it sounds like she has little respect for your boyfriend as well. I would suggest you sit her down at an opportune moment and explain to her that you feel disrespected by these names and that you would like to know why she continues to call you by them and what the issue really is.
If this doesn't work, then at least you did the adult thing in the situation and you can rest well at night knowing that you both defended yourself and tried to make amends civilly.