duh, everybody has

well said

why?

it makes perfect sense i just don't want to go from one extreme to the next though ya know. letting her meet my boyfriends and then all of a sudden mommy and me are moving in with a man i've only met twice. i need to find a happy medium, unfortunately i am the queen at making bad decisions at even worse times.

its not necessary though, balk at me because i'm young but whats going to happend when your children are grown and move on with their individual lives? you wont know what to do. you've probably dedicated you life to your children and thats good. but you have to have something for yourself. you'll always be a mother just not a full time one. you need to go out atleast twice a month on dates or with friends or something (when i say friends i mean single ones, don't be a third wheel to a married couple you'll just get depressed)

thanks it did

i agree but i will not sacrifice having a life just because i have a child. i did that the four years i stayed with her father. shes a smart kid. she'll be alright. the damaged her father does is way worse than me having he spend time with me and my boyfriends. she know they are not her father.

true but in this situation i thought it had a future, plus the distance between us meant that when we were together it was more than just a few hours it was usualy atleast a day and a half once or twice a week until the end and i ended up seeing him quite often

its kinda hard to protect your child and still have some sort of a life. i'm obviously a single mother there isn't much that i don't do without her.

i met this guy on jsh while he was in iraq. we talked on the phone and net for a month until he came home. we finally met in person and it was great. he said he was in love with me and we even talked about me moving in with him (which also meant me moving two hours away from everything i've ever known). we even talked about me going with him when he left to go to washington state in 11 months (btw that would be moving across the entire country). less than a week later he breaks it off with me saying that he couldn't see being in a relationship that had no future. i had explained to him many times how difficult it would be for me to go with him because of the custody situation with my daughter (whom he absolutely adored and she became very attatched to him). he always told me that he fight for us to be together and that we would work something out. please keep in mind that he was the one who initiated our "relationship". i was perfectly happy just being "friends" and hanging out. he was the one that wanted to hang out with me and my daughter and wanted to meet my family. he said that he couldn't handle something like this now and that it would just be easier on everyone if he just ended it now instead of 11 months from now. i don't understand how a man thrives off of running into a firefight in the middle of sand hell but is scared of being in love with me. we always, or so i thought, had a very honest relationship. when i was having doubts about it i talked to him about it. they were actually the same reasons why he broke up with me. once again he told me we would work something out. i spent all day (and night) with him the day before he broke up with me and everything seemed fine to me. what i don't understand is how you can do that. how can you talk about a future with someone, get their child attatched to you and then just say "oh well never mind that might hurt me i think i'll just call it quits now"? it amazes me how the male mind works. what amazes me more is how i fall for it everytime thinking that maybe this isn't lying and has his stuff together. btw he still has on his profile that he wants a real relationship. i think i have a sign on me that says "ooo pick me, lie to me, break my heart i enjoy it"