Good advice so far
Just don't lighten up too much
His reaction is good indication to proceed with caution
There is no sure fire set way you should proceed
But one red flag to keep a look out for is those that want to disarm your precautions prematurely

If you don't like the way the phone convo's go....if you have a smartphone you can easily block their number from calling and messaging...

I think it's not crazy to ask the person to meet you immediately in a public place since you both live in the same area. But it's a good idea to talk him first on the phone, videochat maybe.

Well, if you meet first and don't like them, they don't have your number to bother you... not a bad plan.

Just make sure there is good food where you go so you are guaranteed a nice meal if they are not what you think based on messages sent...

Calling first will build a better level of understanding between you both...
After a few in depth convos you might feel different about a face to face meeting..

Ohhh, and if you decide to meet...take a friend...

Myself I would have a couple of phone conversations first, but hey that's why you are here, if you find him interesting go meet in a public place. Good luck to you.

hi checkinguout

My question is, what's stopping either of you from calling each other?

This was perfect thank you..
I do want to say that hot sweaty monkey sex is wonderful with the person you love..

I keep running into this problem. When I start messaging with guys, they want to know about me but don't seem to want to share much of anything about themselves. It's a one sided conversation. I feel like I have to keep the conversation going. To be honest, I am over it. They can nudge me, wink at me, etc. all they want, but if they want to get to know me they are going to have to find the courage to share something of themselves because I am done prodding them for information. Do they think that just because they have started messaging with a woman that a relationship is going to somehow magically unfold without any effort on their part? It takes two people to create a relationship not just one. And I am tired of just talking about the weather or how my day has been. They don't seem to be able to move past small talk. Am I just impatient or am I just picking the wrong guys?

I have been inundated with young men, mostly near my sons age, and they have been disgusting in their responses when I politely say no thanks. I had to report one who sent a photo of his private part. I had to laugh because it was microscopic. The older men have been respectful and mature. For the young guys it is about a story to tell their mates. I make it clear in my profile of age group appropriate but they still message the most idiotic things. Sorry I have no respect for any of the young men on here.

So very true. Problem is for us high sex drive women, is that we can't find any men who can hang with us or come close to wearing us out

Are you at peace ?
moderately annoyed ?
or, ready to blow?

most people know that humans develop 'buttons' that can be pushed to cause them to get upset or emotional


what about those 'buttons' that heighten sensual desire

share some common ones


for me, breath or nibbles on the ear or neck
gentle caressing near the ear or around the neck
gentle touches on the chin
full on grasping of the waistline


some of yours are...?

love these threads asking if something is ok to do or not

you will do what you have already decided to do


is it right or wrong? depends on your morals

No more night owls...I want a morning woman.