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I am going to be in a big custody battle and I don't quite know what to
do. My ex is pregnant with my kid, and her mother is in the middle as
well. She's about 4 months and she was talking about not giving me any
visitation of any kind and custody is something that her mother is after
and refusing me. See, she wanted an abortion so she could continue a
lifestyle of partying, and I fought her on it, but obviously, there are
no laws protecting the father's rights until after 20 weeks in Iowa. She
eventually decided not to due to my constant pleading, but she flat out
said that she only wants the child for the child support, which is
morally wrong, looking at the child as if it has a paystub attached. Her
mother said that I will not see that child no matter what I try to do,
and it is an unsafe environment for a child, because her mother has a
history of unreported violence. I would be fine with her having the
child with her if she would allow partial custody, and I would be more
than willing to cover any expenses for the child, because not only is it
a legal obligation, but I feel it is also a moral obligation as well.
Her mother stated that she will take my rights and my ex's rights as
well to adopt, and she is okay with it, but I want to fight it. I feel
that it is wrong that they are acting like this. Can anyone provide some
feedback or advice, it would be very appreciated.