I hate to have to quote dr phil here, but the best predictor of future
behavior is past behavior. This guy has shown you he is a liar. Also,
with him being homeless, he has bigger problems than beginning a new
relationship with someone. He needs to get his life on track before he
can share his life with someone.

This story makes my daughter sound kind of dumb and gullible, but that's
not true. She trusted her friend. And yeah, my ex should not have
dropped her off alone, but again, she had no reason to think her friend
was not going to meet her.

I just need to vent. My 17 year old daughter had a falling out w/a girl
who has been her best friend since the 4th grade. This girl has gotten
into sex and drugs, and my daughter just does not want to be her friend
any more. This girl and *her* friend used to hang out with my daugter a
lot. My daughter told me these girls were always making my daughter the
butt of jokes, etc., and my daughter just got tired of it. Nothing
serious, but it was not all-around teasing.

One of the girls said she wanted to talk to my daughter about the
falling out w/the other girl. She told my daughter to meet her in a
popular city park last night, a park where these girls had previously
hung out, and after their talk, the friend would drive my daughter home.
My ex dropped my daughter off; the girl was not yet there, but my
daughter said her friend certainly wouldn't strand her in a park right
before dark. Well, she did. It was all planned ahead of time, for my
daughter to show up and no one would come and she would be stranded in
this park w/no ride home. (she has a cell phone; I went and got her.)

Saying "meet me at McDonald's" and not showing up is 1 thing. But to
have purposely placed my daughter in danger, I am furious.

I think the problem w/a board about depression, etc., is the liability
of the people who own the site. Some people don't respect the rules and
put up suicide threats; then, what is the responsibility of the site
owners. I know this has been a problem on other sites.

With the discussion on different antidepressants: If the person actually
has some bipolar going on (manic/depression), an antidepressant (vs.
mood stabilizer med) will catapult them over the depression and into
mania. Also, people have to watch out when they first begin an
antidepressant as it lifts energy faster than it lifts mood. So if you
are suicidal, you finally have the energy to try to take your life, as
your mood as not caught up with the increased energy. Good luck. MJ

Maybe it's because you exclude "fat" women right off the bat. Or that
you are looking for a bisexual woman with short hair. See? You narrow
your chances right there. Not sure how many skinny short-haired bisexual
women there are on here.

I think if you have had enough, you have had enough. I listened to my
sister, J., for years, literally, crying about her no-good husband. He
was abusive, and she really, really needed to get out. I was *there* for
her. It took a toll on me. Then she came back from summer vacation one
year and said my sister, V., who had gone on vacation with her convinced
her to leave her no-good husband. I was like, huh? She convinced you? I
wish I had every of those seconds of my life back that I gave up. I felt
used.

You don't like our answers? Ask someone else!

I think supporting becomes enabling when the person you are supporting,
their behavior becomes unreasonable. Four months doesn't seem that long
for a long time relationship. Are you the only one she runs to crying?

Too often, for not gettin' any.

I can't get a pedicure because my toes are so small, I have no toenails.
That is my comments on pedicures.

It was ridiculous. I was accused of all sorts of things!

Maybe he knows better about himself, that he should not get in a serious
relationship w/someone who is not going to be close by. Maybe the timing
just is not right w/you and this guy. But, ask him. He might be glad you
brought it up.

Okay, since I have seen people rolling their eyes at topics a few times
now, I have to say I went on dating and relationships and said the topic
I was posting on, commenting on, was stupid. Man, I got an ass chewing!
People said all sorts of rude things about me. People who are nice on
other topics. So, are we allowed to say topics are getting old or
not?

klugman: I think we were at the beach in Maine on the same day. It was
supposed to be my birthday present, a day at the beach (from MO, lived
in NH). Some present!

I never really wrote it out or anything, but I recently realized I have
really, really high standards. Actually, I don't think they are that
impossibly high, but few people meet them. If someone is telling you to
lower your standards, it means they themself have low standards, don't
think much of themself, and figure they have to settle for what they
find. I really says nothing about you.

Mine would be: Do not attempt communication before noon or you might get
your hand--or head--bitten off.

ima4u: I e-mailed you, you answered me, I wrote back and that was the
end of it. I don't know how anyone can call this a site where you make
friends. I try, no response.

Ms Teddy is a smart cookie!

I thought he meant like a flaming gay guy. . .not that there is anything
wrong with that.