This post is a direct response to some of what Dr.Shadowj said in his
comments concerning the practice of ejaculating into your partner's
face...
Im somewhat confused, and slightly disturbed by what appears to be
several contradictory statments in your post...
First, you make a point of mentioning the fact that you are a medical
doctor, specifically a psychiatrist, who has written several papers on
*ABNORMAL* psychology, and *ABERRANT* sexual behavior, as well as having
*COUNCELED* both individuals and groups on matters pertaining to
(normal? typical? dysfunctional? pathological?)human sexual practices
and behaviors... quite obviously presenting yourself as an expert on the
subject...but then you then state "I dont pretend to have the answers".
Now, assuming thats a simple truthful factual statement, and not some
sort of false modesty, not wanting to sound superior, egotistical or
arrogant... how can someone ignorant or unaware or uninformed or
misinformed when it comes to providing clients or patients with answers
to their questions concerning sexual behavior in all its limitless
variations, presume to offer reliable, accurate, unbiased and
constructive effective councel on those very same issues?
Then, as an aside, you candidly admit to being "glad to get off
hopefully at the same time as her" thus perpetuating the widely held but
misguided, mythical and ill-advised goal, that hoped for ultimate
"acheivement", the holy grail of intercourse,the "simultanious mutual
orgasm" ... which happens to be just one out of countless other bits of
untrue, false or misleading counterproductive, destructive unrealistic
expectations that unfortunately get repeated over and over until they
become a part of the collective consiousness, and accepted as true.
Finally, you suggest that while there are sexual acts or practices that
"others might think of as gross" you state the rhetorical "who is to
judge?" and then add "not me"
I would sincerely appreciate it if you could enlighten Me as to how you
can, on the one hand, write papers on ABNORMAL or ABERRANT sexual
behavior, but on the other, claim to be NON-judgemental, neutral,
unbiased, etc...
One has to wonder if you began all those counceling sessions by giving
a disclaimer.. "I dont have any answers to any of your questions about
sexual behavior" and "who am I to judge others sexual behavior...best to
just leave it in the bedroom"
Not quite the best approach to gaining the confidence, respect and
compliance of clients that have come to you expecting and assuming
they'll be given the benefits of your education and training, your
knowledge, experience and insights, and receive a high quality of
professional psychiatric services, including answers to all their
worries, concerns and queries pertaining to their sexuality and sexual
behavior, looking to YOU for your *judgement* as to whats "normal" and
"ok" versus "abnormal".

with all due respect, doc... if you're going to post comments and
replies to the various topics typical on this type of
"singles/dating/personal ads" website, how about if you stick to giving
just your own personal, private, and NON-professional OPINIONS.... OR...
speaking as a MEDICAL DOCTOR and an EXPERT on sex, sexuality and sexual
behavior, just stick to whatever the lastest edition of the DSM codes
tells you to say...
but dont try to do both at the same time.

oh, one last thing... if anyone reading this wants to know the REAL
TRUTH when it comes to "normal vs abnormal" behavior, psychiatry,
psychology and their actual function in society, I strongly suggest and
recommend you read one or more of the books written by Dr.Thomas S.
Szasz, beginning with "The Myth of Mental Illness--Foundations of a
Theory of PersonalConduct"

After which you will also appreciate reading...
Pain and Pleasure
Law, Liberty, and Psychiatry
The Ethics of Psychoanalysis
Psychiatric Justice
Ideology and Insanity
The Manufacture of Madness
The Second Sin
and
(My personal favorite) Ceremonial Chemistry