As opposed to what? Just curious...........

well u are pretty hot so you have no personality?

Did you meet them online (I may have missed that part)? If so, one thing you should know is that women are pretty leery of men they meet online. If you are asking them out for dinner too soon (after, say, a couple of texts), that can be a little scary. You might consider investing more time over a few weeks with phone calls, e-mails, etc. then maybe a first date of coffee or something.

I had one guy, after talking to him via IM once and by phone once insist on getting together that night. And I mean, he was persistent. That says a couple of things (a) booty call wannabe; (b) he's desperate; or (c) he's a serial killer. Were any of those true? I have no way of knowing as I cut off all contact immediately because it was WAAAAAAAAAAY too much too soon.

It's a safety thing

Wow, you give up entirely too easily. Would probably do that differently.

I might have something to do with the way you are asking these young women who don't know you all that well for that first date.

If all you have done is talk or text it is not likely that a vague invitation to go eat a meal feels really safe. Most women do not want to include alcohol in a first date with a stranger even if food is involved.

I don't know how other younger women feel but setting across the table in a yet un-named eating establish that I might or might not like is not my first choice for a date. How are you going to talk with food in your mouth? FOr women it always puts them in a difficult position to know what to order without overwhelming the gentleman's budget. Getting stuck with the bill; sadley is not rare nowdays.

The solution I would suggest is at least being a little more specific when inviteing a lady for a date. Place, time, and date are at least a minimum. It might be less than spontaneous but it shows genuine interest to ask for a date at least three days in advance and then call the day before to confirm.

If she is a single parent at least five days to find a sitter is definitely going to help your odds at an acceptance.

If you get a "stall" when you offer a specific invitation you have two choices; say "Sorry that is not going to work out" or "Sorry if you would like another day I can call you in a week or you can call me when you have a day free and we can see if we can do it later." This way you are not grilling her about her calendar but you have at shot at finding a compatiable date.

Yes. Stop assuming that any girl wants anything to do with you just because they give you their number. It doesnt mean they like you, just like it doesnt mean that if they look at you.

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well if u are 20, how old are the "women" you are talking to?
20 yr old girls don't tend to be very responsive or responsible, from what I have seen...in my 20s, I didn't put much into some guy asking for my #, come to think of it..lol...

it's a numbers game...keep playin

First off welcome to mingle, since you're new. To answer your question, you're not doing anything wrong. Sounds like you just talk to a lot of women who don't know what they want, or they want to take a long time to make up their minds. Or they thought they wanted to go out with you and then they changed their minds again. They sound fickle; I attract the same type of people, and it sucks. Maybe you should take a really long time to get to know them before asking them out. You can talk to someone long enough and get an idea if they want to do more than just text or talk. Good luck.