A woman in the Spokane, WA, area between 30 and 45. Not looking to jump into a relationship--I just want to meet someone I can hang out with and see what develops.

I just joined the site last week. I like it pretty well thus far, though I must ask: Is there any way to search users by last login? At least in Spokane, almost all the members I get in my search results were last on over a month ago. Help?

Every two-bit comedian has padded their act with some kind of riff about the differences between men and women. This...is another one, I guess (though I'm not sure if I'm a two-bit comedian or not).

Movies are a perfect example (now ladies, please remember that these are MY observations based upon MY experience--I am not suggesting that the following are universal laws). Men and women look for very specific things in a movie. Men are generally drawn to movies that are full of 'guy stuff', like guns and explosions and aliens and boobs. Ideally, the main character of a typical guy flick would be a combo platter of those things, though it seems like a tall order to write a character who is an alien with guns and huge, exploding boobs.
Women, on the other hand, are a bit more thoughtful in what they look for in a movie. They tend to like films that have...a lot of talking. Talking and unrealistic love interests. The talking is a mere annoyance--no guy wants to sit there for two hours hearing beautiful-looking people yack on and on about their future or their past or how they yearn for a love that can never be, wasting valuable minutes of exploding-alien-boob time.

First dates are another perfect example of the difference in how males and females operate. What do I mean? Well, allow me to now tell you the only difference between Charles Manson and every first date I went on after I got divorced: Manson would at least be kind enough to LOOK insane the moment you meet him. If you're on a date with Charlie, be prepared for a very early evening--"This guy is a frigging maniac. Why the hell is he buttering the back of his chair? My God, he just looked at the children's menu and ordered a child!" All I'm saying is that a little heads-up would be nice.

I actually couldn't pick between these two:

"Be uncomfortable; be as sand--not oil--in the gears of Time."
--Harlan Ellison

"Sleep, those little slices of Death; how I loathe them."
--Edgar Allan Poe

These twitching impulses to speak your mind
I'll lend you my microscope, then maybe you can find it.
Is it in the awful place that's just behind your face
Where you keep my picture safe, despite the fact that you had me replaced?

You always told me that love's a fragile thing
But how could I know back then that you wanted a King?
A man with his wallet full, a nice smile and deep blue eyes
I hope that you find him soon so I'm there to see him cut you down to size.

Alone in your shroud of manufactured grief
You murder time and truth; love, laughter and belief.
So don't try to touch my heart, it's darker than you think
And don't try to read my mind--you'll find it filled with disappearing ink...

...So say goodbye--girl, couldn't you just act your age?
You knew I would always give it to you straight
And though I'll never be as unhappy as you want me to be
There's still all the rage.