Thoughtfulthug


Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 11:48 PM Topic: My daughter graduated!
What was your daughter's major? Good to see some success stories. :)

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 11:45 PM Topic: How soon is too soon?
Winx. I am just having fun. And misstina precisely see the humor of this. :)

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 11:42 PM Topic: How soon is too soon? Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 11:43 PM
Is it okay to tell someone you love them after just a few weeks of dating?How soon is too soon? At least three months. Any sooner and you'll only risk making yourself look like an idiot when she flakes out and leaves you hangin'. Why 3 months? Sound like you have to schedule your admission of feelings for someone. That sound superficial. It will be different for everyone. He said what works for him. Doesn't mean it has to work for you. Well that is great. Resort to "to each its own" argument. It isn't easy than you think it is. To me if you afflicted by immense feelings for someone, and took the time of 3 months to say it out loud to the person you have feelings for, then it is possible it is too late, or maybe possible that the feelings will not be strong as it once was. I win again. The thing is... just HOW do you know you've actually got REAL feelings for someone before three months? For all you know, you're simply dealing with infatuation, which is hardly an indicator of a "real" relationship. The truth is that you only START to know if the person you're dating is "the one" or just a flash in the pants after around three months (or more). And that's the problem with most dolts nowadays- everybody wants everything now now now... they don't wanna wait and TRULY get to know someone- it's all about the instant gratification. They don't take the time to actually think about whether or not that person they're shacking up with is actually the one they wanna spend the rest of their waking lives with. They rush to start with the dating... they rush with the marriage... and they rush with the divorce. And THEN they wonder why there are so many divorces out there. And much like your mother and her choice of mates, you lost. Again. Not to be impolite. But your sense of syntax and meaning of the word infatuation is erroneous. Maybe you ought to look closely to the word limerance first before you wrongly apply that meaning into the word infatuation. Totally two different and incompatible meanings of two entirely different words altogether yo. limerence (plural limerences) 1. (neologism) An involuntary state of mind which seems to result from a romantic attraction for another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated. n·fat·u·a·tion (ĭ-fāch'ōō-ā'shən) n. 1. A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction. See Synonyms at love. 2. An object of extravagant, or short-lived passion. Both apply and neither are indications of true "love". Both can take place early in a given relationship. Hence the "three month (or more)" rule. You lose again. Please go choke on a tire. Made you look into the dictionary didn't I junior? Trust me. You don't really want me to make a rebuttal of this. You will look lost after I trample over your attempt to play sophistry on me.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 11:40 PM Topic: How soon is too soon?
Is it okay to tell someone you love them after just a few weeks of dating?How soon is too soon? At least three months. Any sooner and you'll only risk making yourself look like an idiot when she flakes out and leaves you hangin'. Why 3 months? Sound like you have to schedule your admission of feelings for someone. That sound superficial. It will be different for everyone. He said what works for him. Doesn't mean it has to work for you. Well that is great. Resort to "to each its own" argument. It isn't easy than you think it is. To me if you afflicted by immense feelings for someone, and took the time of 3 months to say it out loud to the person you have feelings for, then it is possible it is too late, or maybe possible that the feelings will not be strong as it once was. I win again. Actually NO... If someone THINKS they feelsomething and choose to keep those feelings in check until they are sure so that they don't mistake lust and great like for love... I call it SMART... That to me, from what you said, is merely a symptom of temporary paralysis based on previous experiences of having the opposite reaction of what you expect would be the right move which in turn caused fear of doing it again later for another person you wish to tell that you love him. In a non-circular manner, no it's preferring to be careful and not just let feelings go that may not have a place next week or next month... I'd rather keep a feel good feeling to myself and be sure before I hurt someone by saying something that I might change my mind on later b/c I later find out they have horrible habits or beliefs that I know I won't be able to live with, etc. But as I said "that is me" and the other was someone else.. I think each person should do what works for them and not be judged for it... The problem lies here is that feelings are what they are. If you start to intellualize the feelings that you have, then you will inevitably resort to by crushing at the very heart of the feelings, and that is something I think is counterintuitive of what suppose to be what the purpose why feelings are made out of; moreover, when the object of your feelings is presented to you, why deny the feel of that object by thinking about it instead of acting on it? To me, you have a severe case of seeing the woods for the trees. You must see through from the heart, not from the mind. Feel dammit! Not think! 1) I did not ask for a psycho analysis from a psycholigist let alone an opinion pusher 2) I did not tell you how to feel or what to do with your feelings so you should not tell me how to feel or what I should do my feelings... That came out of left field. First of all: I am not telling you how to feel; 2nd, I am telling you to stop thinking about the feelings and feel; 3rd, you are entitled for your own opinion, but that doesn't mean I can't provide what I think are my insight of what your opinion is; and lastly number 4, I don't care for psycho-analysis or whatever the other one is. Mine is entirely devoted to philosophy. Not these silly schools of thoughts that you mistakenly think I am advocating.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 11:31 PM Topic: How soon is too soon?
Is it okay to tell someone you love them after just a few weeks of dating?How soon is too soon? At least three months. Any sooner and you'll only risk making yourself look like an idiot when she flakes out and leaves you hangin'. Why 3 months? Sound like you have to schedule your admission of feelings for someone. That sound superficial. It will be different for everyone. He said what works for him. Doesn't mean it has to work for you. Well that is great. Resort to "to each its own" argument. It isn't easy than you think it is. To me if you afflicted by immense feelings for someone, and took the time of 3 months to say it out loud to the person you have feelings for, then it is possible it is too late, or maybe possible that the feelings will not be strong as it once was. I win again. The thing is... just HOW do you know you've actually got REAL feelings for someone before three months? For all you know, you're simply dealing with infatuation, which is hardly an indicator of a "real" relationship. The truth is that you only START to know if the person you're dating is "the one" or just a flash in the pants after around three months (or more). And that's the problem with most dolts nowadays- everybody wants everything now now now... they don't wanna wait and TRULY get to know someone- it's all about the instant gratification. They don't take the time to actually think about whether or not that person they're shacking up with is actually the one they wanna spend the rest of their waking lives with. They rush to start with the dating... they rush with the marriage... and they rush with the divorce. And THEN they wonder why there are so many divorces out there. And much like your mother and her choice of mates, you lost. Again. Not to be impolite. But your sense of syntax and meaning of the word infatuation is erroneous. Maybe you ought to look closely to the word limerance first before you wrongly apply that meaning into the word infatuation. Totally two different and incompatible meanings of two entirely different words altogether yo.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 11:26 PM Topic: How soon is too soon? Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 11:27 PM
Is it okay to tell someone you love them after just a few weeks of dating?How soon is too soon? At least three months. Any sooner and you'll only risk making yourself look like an idiot when she flakes out and leaves you hangin'. Why 3 months? Sound like you have to schedule your admission of feelings for someone. That sound superficial. It will be different for everyone. He said what works for him. Doesn't mean it has to work for you. Well that is great. Resort to "to each its own" argument. It isn't easy than you think it is. To me if you afflicted by immense feelings for someone, and took the time of 3 months to say it out loud to the person you have feelings for, then it is possible it is too late, or maybe possible that the feelings will not be strong as it once was. I win again. Actually NO... If someone THINKS they feelsomething and choose to keep those feelings in check until they are sure so that they don't mistake lust and great like for love... I call it SMART... That to me, from what you said, is merely a symptom of temporary paralysis based on previous experiences of having the opposite reaction of what you expect would be the right move which in turn caused fear of doing it again later for another person you wish to tell that you love him. In a non-circular manner, no it's preferring to be careful and not just let feelings go that may not have a place next week or next month... I'd rather keep a feel good feeling to myself and be sure before I hurt someone by saying something that I might change my mind on later b/c I later find out they have horrible habits or beliefs that I know I won't be able to live with, etc. But as I said "that is me" and the other was someone else.. I think each person should do what works for them and not be judged for it... The problem lies here is that feelings are what they are. If you start to intellualize the feelings that you have, then you will inevitably resort to by crushing at the very heart of the feelings, and that is something I think is counterintuitive of what suppose to be what the purpose why feelings are made out of; moreover, when the object of your feelings is presented to you, why deny the feel of that object by thinking about it instead of acting on it? To me, you have a severe case of seeing the woods for the trees. You must see through from the heart, not from the mind. Feel dammit! Not think!

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 11:11 PM Topic: How soon is too soon? Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 11:12 PM
Is it okay to tell someone you love them after just a few weeks of dating?How soon is too soon? At least three months. Any sooner and you'll only risk making yourself look like an idiot when she flakes out and leaves you hangin'. Why 3 months? Sound like you have to schedule your admission of feelings for someone. That sound superficial. It will be different for everyone. He said what works for him. Doesn't mean it has to work for you. Well that is great. Resort to "to each its own" argument. It isn't easy than you think it is. To me if you afflicted by immense feelings for someone, and took the time of 3 months to say it out loud to the person you have feelings for, then it is possible it is too late, or maybe possible that the feelings will not be strong as it once was. I win again. Actually NO... If someone THINKS they feelsomething and choose to keep those feelings in check until they are sure so that they don't mistake lust and great like for love... I call it SMART... That to me, from what you said, is merely a symptom of temporary paralysis based on previous experiences of having the opposite reaction of what you expect would be the right move which in turn caused fear of doing it again later for another person you wish to tell that you love him.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 10:59 PM Topic: How soon is too soon? Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 11:14 PM
Is it okay to tell someone you love them after just a few weeks of dating?How soon is too soon? At least three months. Any sooner and you'll only risk making yourself look like an idiot when she flakes out and leaves you hangin'. Why 3 months? Sound like you have to schedule your admission of feelings for someone. That sound superficial. It will be different for everyone. He said what works for him. Doesn't mean it has to work for you. Well that is great. Resort to "to each its own" argument. It isn't easy than you think it is. To me if you're afflicted by immense feelings for someone, and took the time of 3 months to say it out loud to the person you have feelings for, then it is possible it is too late, or maybe possible that the feelings will not be strong as it once was. I win again.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 10:47 PM Topic: people on meth
The trailers are lucky, out of their misery, look what they do to their faces. http://www.drugfree.org/Portal/DrugIssue/MethResources/faces/index.html After clicking through to the link that you provided and studying the pictures, one question comes to mind. Why do they all have open sores on their face? Sadly enough to say I know quite a few people who use on a regular basis, and they don't look like they've been in a fight. Quite true. Just a scare tactic to keep frightful people away from the stuff.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 09:55 PM Topic: How soon is too soon?
if you say it before you mean it it's too soon wise words there. See? I haven't lost faith in ya man!

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 09:53 PM Topic: How soon is too soon?
There's no time limit on emotions. I don't care what ANYONE says. I couldn't say any way betta than that. Say what you feel, and if the feeling is not reciprocated, then that person lost the chance of an awesome person.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 09:35 PM Topic: oh me oh me oh me Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 09:36 PM
ummmm ty for ur feedback. Guess I should remove the pics with cleavage....but is that really preventing people from emailing a hello? I don't know what your saying for sure. But whatever how you want to present yourself, you must be clear on how you do it by the profile you have. If you show anything specific, you will not only get one response, but many different kinds of responses. So, in the end: it depend on what e mail you get from whatever men sees it. Sorry that isn't helpful. But unrealistic expectations is definately not always an understatement.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 09:23 PM Topic: How soon is too soon?
Is it okay to tell someone you love them after just a few weeks of dating?How soon is too soon? At least three months. Any sooner and you'll only risk making yourself look like an idiot when she flakes out and leaves you hangin'. Why 3 months? Sound like you have to schedule your admission of feelings for someone. That sound superficial.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 09:15 PM Topic: How soon is too soon? Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 09:16 PM
Have you ever prematurely ejaculate during sex? ... I don't know. How many weeks are you talking about? Why that question? Have you said you love somebody and say it to him and the person later said he didn't love you back, then later conclude that maybe it was the wrong timing?

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 09:09 PM Topic: oh me oh me oh me Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 09:20 PM
You definately got the bodacious ta tas. Enough to knock many men senselessly. So the advice would be more pics of your charming face with the ta tas struggling to come out of the pics. Ouch! I am Kinda bug-eyed there.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 08:56 PM Topic: back in the game
tell me what im working with! The game is somewhat mediocre from I've gathered by my short time here. However, it is still a game that still consist of fakers, haters, and Real playas. Just watch out for the Ohioans. We practictioners fo realz.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 08:48 PM Topic: what does the public prefer?
true.. probably because my moms dad was very german. Hey! I am German too! And a little sprinkle of Irish and Native American! Wish you live in my naughty teepee. haha that would be fun You know what my dream date would be? To go on a date dressing up as Indians (I forget if that costume store is still around in the University Plaza) and simply go to a restaurant and be boisterously obnoxious toward the other patrons - and then later, still in that role, continue to be idiotic drunken Indians like in the old movies at the many bars in the area of downtown. Of course being somewhat discreet about it so not to be arrested.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 08:37 PM Topic: Virtual vs Reality
Looking up a word hyperreal is an interesting thing for me. Op, try looking up that word. It may be what you are looking for.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 08:08 PM Topic: This is my state...
What I like about my small town (pop is about 11,000) is the very idea you can be somewhat anonymous most of the time and still be known some times. A good balance I say.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 06/01/09 08:06 PM Topic: Argumentativeness Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 06/01/09 08:06 PM
<-----------------impervious to idiots Name calling gets you to places, doesn't it honey bunny?

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