Tulip I think talking to a counselor might help a lot hon
and yes they could probably talk you thru why you might have trouble putting your own needs first and why you might benefit from learning how to create the boundaries you need in your life and letting people know when they have stepped over that line with you

Vent Vent Vent.....that is a part of why we seek out friendships online..IMHO!


Peeps just seem to only have "STUPID" in their vocabulary when dealing with a situation that THEY are uncomfortable with

I have learned, as well as you, to simply write them off as DUMBA$$ES (yes, that includes family as well).

Just a little example.....my sisterinlaw (my husbands own sister), when He passed at the tender age of 49 and I had spent my entire adult life with Him..over 23 years. Her suggestion as to "get over" the anxiety and grief was to "do something to get your mind off of it, such as play cards". WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I truly wanted to retort with something evil like "when you have lost someone who has been at your side for 23 years, let me know how the card playing works for ya". I did NOT say that though, I took the better route and said nothing and simply walked away from her. I think I must've also glared at her because she has not said anything to me about Him since.


Ah, yes...the ole insurance crap!!!!! Gotta put our health on hold until the insurance gurus says it's ok to heal.

You got this, Tulip!!