Tell tale signs of what? That there's something he doesn't want you to know about? Like perhaps a surprise for you? Or maybe just something that's none of your business? Too many people are far too quick to jump to conclusions based on weak-ass "evidence" such as this. Simple communication will often solve these problems, without having to resort to snooping and invasion of someone else's personal stuff and space. Just because you're in a relationship does not necessarily mean you can or should have access to every area of their brain and life every moment of every day. Seriously, if people have such lack of trust, they have NO business being in a relationship of any kind. That kind of lack of trust speaks volumes about insecurity and immaturity.

So I've always been very in touch spiritually (not so much religious) and I believe in the "soul mate" reality. Dating is nerve racking to me and some seem to think that looking (passively) for one's soul mate is too much what do you think?

Huh, has no one heard "privacy?" I don't want access to my boyfriend's e-mail, cell or anything else, nor would I have any respect for him if he insisted on access to mine. It's a matter of trust. If you don't have that, you have nothing. Besides, what if you insist, they give you access, you find nothing? Then you've blown their trust in YOU. Think about it.