I logged on with the intentions of finding and pursuing a discreet
online affair and stumbled into this site. I am all bark and no bite. I
will find my way out of this mess I will keep you posted thanx every
one. Venting was helpful

Thanks KOJAK Your advice is real....ps I dont have eny realtives all my
friends family etc are his nice huh

The man has no intentions of changing...He know that i can't rally walk
out right now So if I have to wear my marital chains ..I guess I go for
the golden ones...revenge may be the only sweet experience at hand

by the way kojack the chat room were other new womwn The guy's libido
has gone off the roof!!!

first one ...text messeging at midnite all thro wee hrs of the morning 7
days a week same female... somebody owes him overtime

sigh your right i need help i have called all sorts of places for
counselling spoken to few therapist... but you know how it goes cheap
s**T for free...None helped

I am a full time student with loans over loans and no steady job The
whole picture is so messed up The kids adore their dad Its just palin
painful

hey kev

the first time I found out that he had been text messaging a female at
his work place. I really never paid attention to our phone bills before
he prferd to take care of that. it was kind of pure accident really
caese he had been sick and I stepped up to take care of a few things.
week one

The second time ...I started digging and decoded one of his emails at
work I found all the love letters to a certain female in another town
including one on the very same day that we had ammended the first fight
week two

The third time ..a few days ago I checked our computers search history
and came about cat rooms he had visited

3 different occassion all with huge fights the reconciliation and
promises to start over nice and clean..well except for the 3rd time I
just din't have the energy any more but i did let him know of my
discoveries

No Kojak he doesn't want out ...he wants the best of both worlds

Kojack, When I asked why he needed the attention of other women, he said
"it just stupid stuff... I'm sorry I won't do it again"

now, thats quite an idea hezett. But seriously, He knows that I am in a
vunerable position right now - financially i.e. and mostly depengd on
him. He has a way of cunningly pointing out the fact that we have really
young kis too. I feel deperately trapped

he refuses counselling

I've caught my husband emailing and chatting with other womwn 3 times
within one month. He dnied then apologised for the first 2 then angrily
denied the 3rd time. I have decided to go on little adventure of my own
- online that is. What say you?