I've caught my husband emailing and chatting with other womwn 3 times
within one month. He dnied then apologised for the first 2 then angrily
denied the 3rd time. I have decided to go on little adventure of my own
- online that is. What say you?

say i ... try counseling . 2 wrongs don t make a right.
You know he cheated so rather then play games seek out the problem and
fix it.

Kojack's right. This isn't the way to go.

he refuses counselling

i say, do something else sinister, ie Crazy glue on his favorite hat.

then go alone, but before you go ask why he won t , also why he seeks
the attention of another female and see if you both canwork it out.

now, thats quite an idea hezett. But seriously, He knows that I am in a
vunerable position right now - financially i.e. and mostly depengd on
him. He has a way of cunningly pointing out the fact that we have really
young kis too. I feel deperately trapped

does he want out of the marriage ? I m confused

Kojack, When I asked why he needed the attention of other women, he said
"it just stupid stuff... I'm sorry I won't do it again"

No Kojak he doesn't want out ...he wants the best of both worlds

ok but it happened 3 times, so what was so stupid to happen 3 times ?
also did it happen at same time, or aafter a repeated event or arguement
you both had

3 different occassion all with huge fights the reconciliation and
promises to start over nice and clean..well except for the 3rd time I
just din't have the energy any more but i did let him know of my
discoveries

was the fight on same topic though ?

the first time I found out that he had been text messaging a female at
his work place. I really never paid attention to our phone bills before
he prferd to take care of that. it was kind of pure accident really
caese he had been sick and I stepped up to take care of a few things.
week one

The second time ...I started digging and decoded one of his emails at
work I found all the love letters to a certain female in another town
including one on the very same day that we had ammended the first fight
week two

The third time ..a few days ago I checked our computers search history
and came about cat rooms he had visited

Gnarly

ok

1st time - i don t know contents, could of been work related ?

2nd time - deff cheating on you

3rd time - chat rooms was it same female or someone new ?

doest realy matter but he s cheatingfor sure. I would goto counseling or
call his eap at work they can help you for free or guide you to help all
confidentally .

hey kev

I say go ahead, why not!!!!

first one ...text messeging at midnite all thro wee hrs of the morning 7
days a week same female... somebody owes him overtime

sigh your right i need help i have called all sorts of places for
counselling spoken to few therapist... but you know how it goes cheap
s**T for free...None helped

I am a full time student with loans over loans and no steady job The
whole picture is so messed up The kids adore their dad Its just palin
painful

by the way kojack the chat room were other new womwn The guy's libido
has gone off the roof!!!