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Warning: 6 'Not So Obvious' Signs That Your New Relationship Is Doomed! Antonio Borrello, PhD Psychologist, Relationship Therapist, and Author: Dating 2.0 New love is magical! It's hypnotizing, euphoric, and enchanting, with a sense of deja vu and intense attraction. Suddenly, someone who was a complete stranger a few weeks ago is now the person that you think about the most. Catching yourself daydreaming of wonderful memories and having to redirect your thoughts over and over again -- isn't that what we all want? I certainly do! If you've been lucky enough to share those amazing feelings with a partner, then you know how exhilarating it can be. On the other hand, realizing that you are dating a person who does not share the same feelings for you is frustrating and unsettling. We've all been there, right? What's important is that you are able to quickly recognize when your feelings aren't being reciprocated -- and once you're aware, to adjust your behaviors and your feelings accordingly. After all, what's the benefit in spending your time worrying about a person who isn't showing as much interest as you are? With that in mind, here are six warning signs that the person you're dating just isn't that into you. 1. Dating a Person Who Doesn't Consistently Return Your Calls or Texts. OK, this one might be obvious. When a person is excited about a new love interest, they're eager to stay in touch and communicate with their partner. If you're anything like me, you would also check your phone for text messages or missed calls more frequently, just to be certain that you hadn't missed any communication. After all, you wouldn't want to do anything that might disappoint your partner or jeopardize the relationship. And when you receive a new text or call, you are happy to return the message. You should expect nothing less from your partner. 2. Dating a Person Who's Always 'Too Busy' No matter how busy a person is, if you or your relationship is important and a high priority, they will find the time or make the time for you. If they don't make the time, a relationship just might not be a priority. Don't take it personally or question whether you're good enough. It's not a reflection of you, period. Avoid making excuses and fooling yourself into believing that you can wait it out. The more thought and energy you invest while waiting, the stronger your feelings will become. So, don't waste another moment thinking about their situation or wondering when it might change. Move forward and find someone who is on the same page as you are. In the end, you will be happy that you did. 3. Dating a Person Who Won't Commit Because They're 'Afraid of Getting Hurt' Certainly it's appropriate to learn from our experiences and to be cautious with our heart. At the same time, when you meet that one special person who turns your world upside down, you're willing to do whatever it takes to keep that person in your life. Whatever fears you might have won't come close to the fear of losing the one you really love. If a person won't commit because they are "afraid of getting hurt," then move on and find the one that's afraid of losing you. 4. Dating a Person Who Keeps Your Relationship a Secret on Social Media Does the person you're dating avoid posting photos of the two of you together? Is that person otherwise active on social media? If yes, have you two discussed this? New couples who are excited about a future together usually want to share their happiness with friends and family. If that's not happening in your situation, you should certainly ask why? 5. Dating a Person Who is Giving You 'Mixed Messages' In all relationships, we communicate simultaneously on at least two levels; what we say, and what we do. Usually, a person's verbal and actual behaviors convey the same message. Mixed messages are inconsistencies in communication, where a person may say one thing, but act on another. Getting mixed messages from a person you really like makes them difficult to understand, and harder to trust. Sometimes, partners enter a relationship with different goals in mind. One person invests in the relationship in hopes of a formal commitment, while the other begins more casually and refuses to make a formal commitment. Still, they act like a couple and reap all the benefits of a relationship. The partner who wants the commitment refuses to accept what they are being told in favor of what they want to believe. Don't get caught up in this arrangement, especially if a long term relationship is what you want. Doing so ultimately results in feelings of resentment and frustration and fosters a relationship void of honesty, emotional intimacy, and trust. Make sure the person you're dating shares your plans for the future and communicates a consistent message with both their words and their actions. 6. Dating a Person Who is Maintaining a Separate 'Friendship' With an Ex-Partner Sharing your life with someone involves developing relationships with your partner's friends and family. Old friends who want to maintain a relationship with your partner should want to befriend you too, right? If your partner wants to maintain a separate friendship with their ex-partner, you must question their motives and the appropriateness of their friendship. New relationships should be exciting, passionate, and easy. When you really like someone, you want them to know how valuable and important the relationship is. And, you want to know that your feelings are reciprocated -- so , you treat them with as much affection and consideration as you can. That is exactly how you should be treated in return. Don't settle for anything less. Remember, if you're busy waiting, wondering, and worrying about this relationship, you just might miss the opportunity to meet the right one. http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/7937206/ thanks for this info, put my mind to rest a little :) |
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Looks real. What are you getting? getting messages about photos being removed, but had message twice now in the last 2 days, but no photos have been removed I think it is legit then :-) soufie Site Moderator ah well, if legit, must be something wrong with the system, ive not uploaded photos in ages, and now getting messages that dont really mean anything, strange |
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help!!!
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Looks real. What are you getting? getting messages about photos being removed, but had message twice now in the last 2 days, but no photos have been removed |
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help!!!
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i keep getting emails from http://mingle2.com/user/view/261801 is this official??
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Lonely Single Parents
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I look on sites, tell the world im here, but no one wants a father of 5 kids, i dont blame them really lol, but apart from sites, i pass my time by creating music and playing games (gees that sounds boring lol)
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Edited by
LonelyDad1975
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Wed 04/22/15 01:47 PM
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whoop whoop i hear ya say lol ;)
interesting 2 weeks i have had! met an amazing woman from here, we got on well at first but it was not ment to be, no hard feelings, it's just one of them things. Id still would like to chat to her, but i think i may have been a tad blunt in my last message, so i don't expect any reply. i do wish her all the best and thank her for caring, which is a rare thing to see these days. she found my mojo and helped me realise a few things about myself and i can't thank her enough for that. so if she is reading this, thankyou babe, you are amazing, totally rocking granny ;) x |
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listening to my tumble dryer clunking away ;)
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1-2-3 magic works well with younger children, time out ect, but older children i take things from them for a short time, my dad smacked me a lot as a child and it didnt do me any favours, i never smack my kids, and if i see them fighting (not in a playful way) i put on time out or ban them from something, hitting children is wrong, shouting at them and swearing in public at them, i have seen, and have to hold my words in, i cant say anything to them, i am no one in their eyes, why would they listen to my advice, but it still annoys me to see adults abusing kids in public or anywhere infact
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im new here
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Wanna met me...im looking for a ryt gurl for me....  join the club ;) |
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Long legs or big boobs??
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Big boobs  omg, that is not what i had in mind lol |
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Long legs or big boobs??
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if i had boobs, i wouldnt leave the house lol, so yeah i'm a boob man ;)
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Happy Mother's Day!!
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There are many Father's Days http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Father%27s_Day And many Mother's Days http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day I didn't know that many.. blimey, i guess the card company cant produce enough cards for one day lol ;) |
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Happy Mother's Day!!
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2 Mother's Days is better than just one, I won't complain. i wonder if 2 father's day too ;) |
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Happy Mother's Day!!
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LonelyDad1975
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Sun 03/15/15 06:37 AM
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I don't know, I looked online and it says May 10th. Maybe it's different in some countries? yeah i just googled it too, it says the same, thats strange, now dunno if all on fb and me are wrong or internet is ..... yep internet wrong, well that site i visited was.... Mothers Day is Sunday 15th March 2015 in the UK and Sunday 10th May 2015 in Australia, phew, i aint gone mad ;) |
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Happy Mother's Day!!
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I don't know, I looked online and it says May 10th. Maybe it's different in some countries? yeah i just googled it too, it says the same, thats strange, now dunno if all on fb and me are wrong or internet is ..... |
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Happy Mother's Day!!
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everyone on my fb must be wrong then lol ;)
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Happy Mother's Day!!
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good :)
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What
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what's what whating ;)
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newbie here
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hi :)
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for a profile that the first line says 'come say hello' to have someone say hello back to me......
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