Wholeheartedly agree with you ladies!
So much so that I would put that on the list of "what I want" haha. If you can't sort things out in a relationship it isn't really healthy either. After all we all have our pasts at this age, and like you so beautifully phrase, River, there's always a few cobwebs left behind in the closet.

It is obvious you don't get it. Your all about what you feel is emotional love and expecting certain actions that trigger your good emotional feelings. When they don't happen, it triggers a negative emotion in you. Your emotional feelings need to be propped up by the man in your life to feel good about yourself and there can be no relationship without it.

your definition of love
useless trinkets
non-productive, boring existence

A man who understands we don't need each other in order to feel good about ourselves... he chooses to learn about and embrace emotional intimacy because he understands that it strengthens our bond and connection as a couple.

A man with a sense of humor, enjoys laughing with me and likes to do fun things together.

What I know about what women really want.. is somebody that does what they say they're going to do and not just give everything lip service... they want somebody reliable honest hard-working no matter the job... they want to be treated with respect.. and also to be made to feel very much like a woman at times... yes they want flowers on those special occasions.. and even on those not so special occasions.. they don't want somebody that can fix everything for them they really just want somebody that will listen to them. Honestly hear what they're saying... hold them when they need to be held support them when they need supporting and accept them for who they are... like all of us I suppose we want to be loved and accepted for our good and are bad

You understand woman very well No1

A man who respects me, he is Kind , has a sense of humor , he is secure in himself. He knows Chivalry is not dead ! Did I mention Kind !

Yep, and matching sense of humour at that. Nothing is so awkward as totally enjoying something and the other isn't getting it, the other way round is just as unpleasant, or worse, lol.

For the humour thing I'd need a man to be quite good at English cos most of what I read, watch, and write is in English and I'd like to share this.
Like with my last man, his English was quite good, but when I wanted to share Michael McIntyre's "The Dentist" he was totally out of his depth.
Admittedly, it almost takes a native speaker to get that, but I do as well.
That's one thing I can miss about my ex, the British one. Not being able to share this kind of stuff anymore. Most Dutch ppl's English isn't good enough to follow such comedy and they don't get English puns.

So... a Dutch guy who's real good at English is high on my list
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Evidently you think he does. If that is what he is comfortable with, good for him and more women for him; you better latch on to him!

"and also to be made to feel very much like a woman at times... yes they want flowers on those special occasions.. and even on those not so special occasions.. they don't want somebody that can fix everything for them they really just want somebody that will listen to them. Honestly hear what they're saying... hold them when they need to be held support them when they need supporting and accept them for who they are"

Not all of us see some of those characteristics as something we wish to strive for; they are not who we are!

A man who loves to kiss

Yesss!!!

I think the problem is You don’t get it.

Love IS an emotion!!! Being in love triggers good emotional feelings, not actions.

Women DO NOT need a man to make them feel good about themselves. Maybe some do but most don’t. I feel great about myself before and during a relationship. Even if it ends, I will get over it and again, feel good about myself.

Others can feel and see negativity in another and steer clear of them.

A man who loves to cuddle while watching tv

You are probably right that I don't "get" this emotion you refer to as love. There are many emotions that give us pleasure, there are many emotions that are unpleasant, and there are some emotions that provide nothing to our lives. Which one love is depends on the individual person, their needs, and their experiences.

Oldkid maybe you're getting stuck on the word "emotion/emotional" when referring to intimacy. Emotional intimacy is about closeness, sharing of personal feelings... understanding and respecting the feelings of your partner... It's being able to be vulnerable with each other, there's a deeper trust that allows you to be vulnerable. Vulnerability in an unhealthy relationship has often been violated, but in a healthy relationship it's the one thing that bonds a couple closer together... creates a deeper trust and deeper level of intimacy.

I sense when you hear emotions or emotional, you are picturing a lunatic, lol,... it's not about feelings running amok... It's about a deep seeded love that I'm sure a lot of us desire, want, and for some... have yet to experience.

Yes. !

I like a positive uplifting man. I like my activity partner, he's never been married, so maybe that is why. Many divorced men, are Mean.

Very seldom I meet. a older man, with many Platonic women friends.

If we were to actually Date, he would have to let them go.

That which you describe takes many years to build. I have that trust with a couple of older, male friends. I have never met a woman, including my sister and daughters, that I would have that level of trust with. No, I don;t view it as what would be a mental health issue. It is based on women's emotional instability and the judgements made by them of other people. I see those characteristics almost daily on these forums and in real life!

Fair enough OldKid... You have a right to your opinion and how you feel, as does the rest of us. I see things differently and I'm okay with that.

Have a good day!