Topic: Where Is Your Forgiveness Meter?
Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:28 PM



I do not forget. I do not forgive.

If you are looking for forgiveness, take it up with jesus.

I am referring to adults. Kids will screw up. Adults know better and do you dirty anyway. If you wanna forgive them, that is your business. I won't.


So then you don't expect to be forgiven when you make mistakes, right?


Lori, this is a great point.

Since I am of the same belief as Krupa - I have to look myself in the mirror when I read your question.

Even when applied to me, I believe the old idiom "You made your bed now lie in it".

As much as it would crush me if I hurt someone - and they chose NOT to forgive me - I would respect that corollary since I live by the same rule of thumb; otherwise, I would be guilty of a double standard AND be a person who doesn’t accept responsibility for her actions. The word 'hypocrite' comes to mind. winking

Live by the sword; die by the sword.



Melody, I'm going out on a limb and say that if someone did something to you that you thought was unforgivable, it would be severe enough that it wouldn't be something that your capable of..

I wouldn't mind dying by the sword if I had to, but I prefer a little old lady in my sleep...I'm a real P* ssY when it comes to pain.

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Wed 04/28/10 07:29 PM

nikita5's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:33 PM
Forgiveness is always a work in progress-sometimes I have to remind myself to let it go.I am working on it and one day I hope to get there.

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:33 PM

Not sure mistakes require forgiveness LL. If I answer wrong on jeapardy, that is a mistake......if I steal panties from your panty drawer, that is intentional.

I don't expect to be forgiven for doing the wrong thing.

Besides, try forgiving me when I fart in a crowded elevator as I laugh about it. Cause you will need to forgive me again on the way back down too.


Many times I like to be forgiven for the little mistakes..I'm super sensitive so what may seem like something not even apology worthy i still like to offer one.

Krupa, i don't wear panties so if you went into my drawer to steal a pair you'd just be let down. And if you and I are ever in an elevator
together and you ripped one and laughed..i would rip one back and laugh with you...so then who would be apologizing and who would be throwing up??

rara777's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:39 PM
Edited by rara777 on Wed 04/28/10 07:40 PM
It is very easy for me to forgive someone.

Just because I have forgiven them, doesn`t mean that I have to hang out with them.

The first part of understanding forgiveness, is learning to forgive yourself.

When you are able to forgive yourself, it is so much easier for you to forgive someone else.

(((Lori)))smooched flowerforyou

I would have a farting contest with you anytime in an elevator.:wink: :tongue: bigsmile

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:42 PM
I forgive myself every day...

Ed..your so romantic love

delilady's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:46 PM
I can forgive but forgetting is another story! I will always give someone the benefit of the doubt but when I decide I have had enough then I am done--FOREVER!!!

rara777's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:48 PM

I forgive myself every day...

Ed..your so romantic love


That why you like me so much.:wink: laugh :tongue:

Could it be a "candle light" elevator ride? :wink:bigsmile

heartbreaker123's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:54 PM
and what if u have forgave 4x's and they still want another?and somethings r hard to forget and yes i do forgive and not ever wish harm on any one but how many times r u suppose to forgive someone?:angel: waving

Dict8's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:56 PM
I won't forgive anybody that steals from me...or stalks me and my friends...or persists in trying to harm me in every way possible. Hell no!!!!!

heartbreaker123's photo
Wed 04/28/10 07:58 PM

I won't forgive anybody that steals from me...or stalks me and my friends...or persists in trying to harm me in every way possible. Hell no!!!!!
flowerforyou i agree with u the only thing this person i am talking about hasnt done is phyisical harm:angel:

no photo
Wed 04/28/10 08:04 PM

It is very easy for me to forgive someone.

Just because I have forgiven them, doesn`t mean that I have to hang out with them.

The first part of understanding forgiveness, is learning to forgive yourself.

When you are able to forgive yourself, it is so much easier for you to forgive someone else.



I sooo agree w/all of this, Ed ...:wink:

Ya can't love, like, respect, forgive another, etc., unless ya can give feel all those things for yourself first ...

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 04/28/10 08:26 PM

I won't forgive anybody that steals from me...or stalks me and my friends...or persists in trying to harm me in every way possible. Hell no!!!!!


stalking is creepy, karma has a way of working things out with thieves.
Someday, somewhere, somehow a thief wakes up and finds they have nothing...and wonders huh, where did all my stuff go, I use to have so much.

rara777's photo
Wed 04/28/10 08:29 PM


It is very easy for me to forgive someone.

Just because I have forgiven them, doesn`t mean that I have to hang out with them.

The first part of understanding forgiveness, is learning to forgive yourself.

When you are able to forgive yourself, it is so much easier for you to forgive someone else.



I sooo agree w/all of this, Ed ...:wink:

Ya can't love, like, respect, forgive another, etc., unless ya can give feel all those things for yourself first ...


Thank you (((Kate)))smooched flowerforyou

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 04/28/10 08:45 PM

It is very easy for me to forgive someone.

Just because I have forgiven them, doesn`t mean that I have to hang out with them.

The first part of understanding forgiveness, is learning to forgive yourself.

When you are able to forgive yourself, it is so much easier for you to forgive someone else.

(((Lori)))smooched flowerforyou

I would have a farting contest with you anytime in an elevator.:wink: :tongue: bigsmile


So very true...many think they have conquered their demons..actions speak quite loudly , much louder than words.

Let me know when ya wanna take a deep breath and enter the elevator.

EquusDancer's photo
Wed 04/28/10 10:01 PM




I'm fortunate to be able to forgive very easily because I'm able
to put myself in the position of others and to see all
perspectives of a situation. I believe everyone deserves a
second chance. That does not mean it doesn't hurt.
Where are you on the forgiveness meter? Are you able to forgive
and let go or do you want revenge, wish bad upon one who you feel
has screwed your over...hold a grudge?


I never hold a grudge. If I am going to be angry or disappointed enough to eliminate a person from my life then I get over it and move on with life. I wish them well - but I choose not to be friends with them.

My tolerance for BS, drama, and people who don’t take responsibility – or who repeat the same actions without remorse – is almost zero.

I honestly can’t think of a situation wherein I forgave someone for a major issue.

Petty stuff is annoying, like being late, flaking, getting drunk and puking on my shoes ( laugh ) but I consider that unconditional love for my friends.

If someone lies, cheats, or steals from me then I close that door in a hearbeat and I don't forgive or forget. They shouldn't have been an azzzz in the first place. They are probably forgiven by too many people which is why they keep acting like an azzzz. If they learn consequences they MIGHT change.


This is probably the best way of how I view things too.

But "forgiveness" along the lines of Christianity, no. I think it's a BS excuse.

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 04/28/10 10:06 PM





I'm fortunate to be able to forgive very easily because I'm able
to put myself in the position of others and to see all
perspectives of a situation. I believe everyone deserves a
second chance. That does not mean it doesn't hurt.
Where are you on the forgiveness meter? Are you able to forgive
and let go or do you want revenge, wish bad upon one who you feel
has screwed your over...hold a grudge?


I never hold a grudge. If I am going to be angry or disappointed enough to eliminate a person from my life then I get over it and move on with life. I wish them well - but I choose not to be friends with them.

My tolerance for BS, drama, and people who don’t take responsibility – or who repeat the same actions without remorse – is almost zero.

I honestly can’t think of a situation wherein I forgave someone for a major issue.

Petty stuff is annoying, like being late, flaking, getting drunk and puking on my shoes ( laugh ) but I consider that unconditional love for my friends.

If someone lies, cheats, or steals from me then I close that door in a hearbeat and I don't forgive or forget. They shouldn't have been an azzzz in the first place. They are probably forgiven by too many people which is why they keep acting like an azzzz. If they learn consequences they MIGHT change.


This is probably the best way of how I view things too.

But "forgiveness" along the lines of Christianity, no. I think it's a BS excuse.


I will always look for the good..if I'm off on my call on that and i get fU *K ed....I have no problem kicking someone to the curb!
If your intentions are good and you have done the right thing..it's not so hard to dump one who crosses the line.
Looks like were all in agreement...

EquusDancer's photo
Wed 04/28/10 10:08 PM






I'm fortunate to be able to forgive very easily because I'm able
to put myself in the position of others and to see all
perspectives of a situation. I believe everyone deserves a
second chance. That does not mean it doesn't hurt.
Where are you on the forgiveness meter? Are you able to forgive
and let go or do you want revenge, wish bad upon one who you feel
has screwed your over...hold a grudge?


I never hold a grudge. If I am going to be angry or disappointed enough to eliminate a person from my life then I get over it and move on with life. I wish them well - but I choose not to be friends with them.

My tolerance for BS, drama, and people who don’t take responsibility – or who repeat the same actions without remorse – is almost zero.

I honestly can’t think of a situation wherein I forgave someone for a major issue.

Petty stuff is annoying, like being late, flaking, getting drunk and puking on my shoes ( laugh ) but I consider that unconditional love for my friends.

If someone lies, cheats, or steals from me then I close that door in a hearbeat and I don't forgive or forget. They shouldn't have been an azzzz in the first place. They are probably forgiven by too many people which is why they keep acting like an azzzz. If they learn consequences they MIGHT change.


This is probably the best way of how I view things too.

But "forgiveness" along the lines of Christianity, no. I think it's a BS excuse.


I will always look for the good..if I'm off on my call on that and i get fU *K ed....I have no problem kicking someone to the curb!
If your intentions are good and you have done the right thing..it's not so hard to dump one who crosses the line.
Looks like were all in agreement...


:thumbsup: :banana:

newarkjw's photo
Wed 04/28/10 10:11 PM
Did ya'll know that I can juggle while doing the Charlestown?........smokin

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 04/28/10 10:14 PM

Did ya'll know that I can juggle while doing the Charlestown?........smokin


...but can you do the hustle while gargling with scope?