I AM CURRENTLY LOOKING FOR A LONG TERM FRIENDHIP WITH BENEFITS. honesty is my middle name, well actually it is harry (first name tom) , but honestly i will tell you anything you need to know. i am an open book. don't care about or for secrecy unless it is for survival- dating is not survival. my headline is is an example of my humor (the word also) - the person i was taking care of and living with for 40 years was slowly disappearing right in front of me both mentally and physically. truthfully she has been gone for nearly 20 years. she is gone from my life now,and forever.the relief from the load is immense. i can go into details but it is for a time when we are alone and you are feeling very positive. (sorry for yucky picture. the hat and suspenders are U.S. Air Force-as i was.- and all air force guys wear sunglassses, right?)