YOUR TIME IS PRECIOUS,SO THANK YOU TO READ WHAT I HAVE TO SAY....IT'S SO MUCH...I KNOW...BUT FOR ME ...IT'S THE DOORS OF MY HUMBLE HEART OPENED FOR YOU...I APPRECIATE...STAY BLESSED... "The only regrets in life are the risks you don't take" Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us. Maybe it is true that we don't know what we have got until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we have been missing until it arrives. Giving someone all your love is never an urance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but if it does not, be content it grew in yours. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile. Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you are the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying. For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it. For true success in our life and relationship, ask ourselves these four questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now? To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson. Everything we want is out there waiting for us to ask. Everything we want also wants us. But we have to take action to get it. If you wait to do everything until you're sure it's right, you'll probably never do much of anything. Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Some people dream of success while others wake up and work hard at it. For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else. Life is the art of drawing without an eraser.” Don't worry about life, you're not going to survive it anyway. You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. Age does not protect you from love, but love to some extent protects you from age. One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching. To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and show it a lot. Do you love me because I'm beautiful, or am I am beautiful because you love me? I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies. According to a recent survey, men say the first thing they notice about a woman is their eyes, and women say the first thing they notice about men is they're a bunch of liars. You can't undo anything you've already done, but you can face up to it. You can tell the truth. When you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything. You can seek forgiveness. And then let God do the rest. Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable. If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were. It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. There is no remedy for love but to love more. Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is. It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy a relationship. It is by chance that we met, by choice that we became friends. You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can't forget. Those are your 'friends. Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are. Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget. A friend is someone who, upon seeing another friend in immense pain, would rather be the one experiencing the pain than to have to watch their friend suffer. A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words. We're born alone, we live alone, and we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone. Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing... not healing, not curing... that is a friend who cares. A friend is a hand that is always holding yours, no matter how close or far apart you may be. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart. A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend, one human soul whom we can trust utterly, who knows the best and worst of us, and who loves us in spite of all our faults. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation that you ever had. Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down. Friendship is a treasured gift, and every time I talk with you I feel as if I'm getting richer and richer Much of the vitality in a friendship lies in the honoring of differences, not simply in the enjoyment of similarities. The difference between friendship and love is how much you can hurt each other There are three types of friends: those like food, without which you can't live; those like medicine, which you need occasionally; and those like an illness, which you never want. True friendship is seen through the heart, not through the eyes. There are no secrets for a successful life. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure. We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection. On reflection, one of the things I needed to learn was to allow myself to be loved. You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; and just so, you learn to love by loving. All those who think to learn in any other way deceive themselves. Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young. The age of love is forever. Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections To often when you meet someone your really meeting thier representative and sometimes that representative is misleading you find out later down the road, well I dont want to meet your representative, just the real you. Its really a great thing to meet someone and know that they are interested in you for who you are and not who you pretended to be. Its funny because alot of profiles say basically the same thing, looking for honest, fun, bla bla bla. Why are so many of us looking for the same thing but yet we fail to find each other? I am honest, fun, caring, affectionate, pionate, love to laugh, but yet I am here because I am also wanting to meet someone that wants to find a great friend, partner, companion, basically the same qualities in a person that I do. If your looking for a trophy please keep going, if you do drugs...well I don’t so that wont work either. I have been told that I am a good catch, not sure why I haven’t been caught yet, probably because I have made some bad choices, we all have. We all are the authors of our lives, unfortunately I write mine in pen therefore I cannot erase my mistakes. If you can carry a conversation and are looking for some good company then lets chat. Some of you reading this may find my brutal honesty disturbing, if that is the case it was not meant for us to communicate. I am burned out on BS if you cant tell, but I still have hope that there are people out there that see it my way and steer clear of those that have a lot to dish out. No I am not bitter, really, I have just had my share and really don’t want anymore. I have a great sense of humor, yes I am a little sarcastic at times and quick witted. I love to laugh it feels good. I like to have fun, who doesn’t, right? Fun doing something or even nothing, its all in the company you keep. Family and friends are very important to me, as they are to most. I truly believe that appreciation, communication and affection has to go both ways in a relationship, you have to take time to show it not just expect them to know it, to often relationships fail because we take our partners for granted and get wrapped up in a boring routine, we dont all do it intentionally, but its so important to let each other know once in a while. Wow now I sound like Dr Phil. And also, no its not all about looks but there does have to be some attraction there physically and mentally, you can be drop dead gorgeous but if your personality sucks then that alone can make you ugly. ~WHO AM I?~ I am Stephane but you can call me Steph. I am single, Chronologically thirty, Psychologically Sixty. I’m coming from PARIS the French capital and my hometown. I speak English, and I’m very fluent in French the official spoken language of FRANCE and Cameroon. I also speak the Fe’Fe my native dialect. In FRANCE I was working as Financial Manager for an International company. Now as Strategy and Operations project Manager I represent my company in the US. My company and I are here to invest and open our brand to the American market which is one of the most challenging and most compeive. I live in MD my new hometown. It’s my first time to be in the US. I like to travel and visit new places, people and their culture. While traveling on business purposes to meet partners, I was in Chicago, DC, North Carolina, South Carolina, Georgia, Florida (especially Jacksonville, Orlando, Miami, Daytona Beach, Tampa). The sun in Florida is great. I’m the father of a lovely daughter back to the country. I am everything that's ever happened to me; my body, my mind, my emotions. I am the last of my family. I am all my relationships, achievements and failures. I am my joys and my sorrows; my fears and my loves. My judgments and my disapprovals. The attractions and the rejections, the losses and the many blissful moments. I am all the food I ate, the sleepless nights, the pains and the pleasures. I am all of these - and I am none. In truth - who I am is unfolding in this very breath I'm taking... witnessing the inevitable, eternal now, interconnected to everything that has always been and will always be - I am the present. I am my heritage, from Cameroon the country in which I was born, and all the places I visited and lived. I am all the people I have ever met, the ones I liked and the ones who disliked me. I am all my experiences, idenies, feelings, thoughts. I'm very ambitious , I carry in me some great dreams; I am aspiring to invest myself in the field of Culture with the purpose of promoting and preserving old primitives world Art and languages (among those my native dialect). Something needs to be done, otherwise those primitives languages will disappear. I also have the will to help improving life of poor people in the third world countries especially in Africa (education and scholarship of children and young girls, water adduction, child health care, human right), creating a museum of primitives dialects and languages around the world.. To achieve these, I need a great companion for sharing, mentoring, understanding and supporting. I enjoy interacting with people that can inspire me and in some way of their own, enlighten me or teach me something new. I have an appreciation for humble people. They seem to allow things to unfold over time because they aren't anxious to prove themselves by projecting what they believe will impress others. The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of atude on life. Atude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than cirstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the atude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our atude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Atudes.” ‘’I don't wish to be everything to everyone, but I would like to be something to someone’’. To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world. ~ YOU’RE INVITED~ It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love for your dream for the adventure of being alive. It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon... I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful to be realistic to remember the limitations of being human. It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy. I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence. I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes.” It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children. It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back. It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.Believe me! The secret of reaping the greatest fruitfulness and the greatest enjoyment from life is to love and be loved. Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live. You haven't lost your smile at all, its right under your nose. You just forgot it was there. I laugh, I love, I hope, I try, I hurt, I need, I fear, I cry. And I know you do the same things too, So we're really not that different, me and you. I haven't seen you in a while, yet I often imagine all your expressions. I haven't spoken to you recently, but many times I hear your thoughts. Good friends must not always be together. It is the feeling of oneness, when distant that proves a lasting. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend. We are friends and I do like to p the day with you in serious and inconsequential chatter. I wouldn't mind washing up beside you, dusting beside you, reading the back half of the paper while you read the front. We are friends and I would miss you, do miss you and think of you very often. This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life. Hope to see and hear more about you. ONCE AGAIN YOUR TIME WAS PRECIOUS, THANK YOU TO READ WHAT I HAD TO SAY....IT WAS SO MUCH...I KNOW...BUT FOR ME ...IT'S THE DOORS OF MY HUMBLE HEART OPENED FOR YOU...I APPRECIATE...STAY BLESSED... PS: MUST BE MATURE TO RESPOND.