i am brownskin athletic build (i work out 2 to 3 times a week).i run a small family business and i have traveled some. i believe humor is the key to understanding, when one can except anothers humor and vice versa the channels are open for serious discussion unlike then one takes they other party too the letter of there every word at all times. i think honest starts with ones self, if someone can not be honest to themselves i do not believe it is possible for them to be honest with others. conversely i believe fear of failure is in reality fear of success. life is not too short it is just not recognized for the great length it takes for one to appreciate it's intricate grand plan. sometimes some are so fearful of being alone that they don't remove the blinders and the relationship they are currently in suffers.there is a saying:" A GREAT ACTOR CREATES A CHARATOR, BUT HAVING GREAT CHARATOR IS THE ABILITY TO BE YOURSELF.".