Okay soo I have 3 boys. They currently live with their father because I am both working full time, going to school and preparing to leave for Iraq in 6 months. My ex-husband is a OIF vet and has suffered from some PTSD. He has taken to the bar since our divorce and it bothers me that he would rather go to the bar after work then come home and spend time with his kids. I don't really know how to make him see the damage it, is having on our children. Everytime I say something he just says "Well you get all week and I only have the weekends to my self" Although I see more of the kids in the 2 1/2 days I have them then he does in 2 weeks. They are being raised by a babysitter and when they are not they get to watch dad bring home the flavor of the week. I am not to impressed at all. I know that even if I were to take them to live with me that they would just have to come back to it in 6 months when I leave. Does anyone have any ideas?

what about asking your parents to help?

On the outside sounds like the perfect answer right....unfortunitly both of my parents are drug atticks and lost custody of the children they had at home 2 years ago. I tried talking to his and they are blind to whats going on...to them he is a hero and can do no wrong.

possibly in-laws or your parents to have temp. custody till ya get back? tuff decision either way ya go............need an attorney sounds like.........

PTSD is a hard thing to deal with especially more with what he may have went through.
I think you need to find some better support for your children and yourself.
He needs to get help as well... sometimes falling hard on your own tush can make you see things so much more clearer.
Best of luck with everything.

after reading your quote, you have a very nasty problem...........i feel for you............another family member, cousins, etc.?

PTSD,,,, Is a really weird thing,,,, I have it and I sometime don't even know what I am doing,,, I get lost just going to town?? I end up in place's that I have no idea why or what I stopped their for??? If he hasn't been dealing with this very long try to find someone else,,, Just me tho???

The best I can come up with is my best friend but 3 boys are alot of work. I know that he went through a lot when he was over there. All of us that have been have, some just deal with it better then others. I am more mad at myself then anything though. I figured with my working 40 hours and being a full time student it would be better for them with their dad since he only works 20 hours a week. My mother moved us to oregon when I was 13 and I don't have any family up here and I don't really know the rest well enough to trust them with my children. These guys are my life, and their well being is my soul concern...I still care for my ex to and wish he would get help but anytime its metioned he just rolls his eyes and pretends he didn't hear me.