MY AUNT PASSED AWAY EASTER SUNDAY.
SHE HAD A LIVER TRANSPLANT IN JANUARY AND THEY WERE GOING TO SEND HER HOME ON GOOD FRIDAY. BUT SHE HAD A HEART ATTACK ON THURSDAY NIGHT WHICH LEFT HER BRAIN DEAD.
MY PARENTS TOLD ME ABOUT THE SITUATION AND ABOUT HER DEATH, AND THAT THEY WERE CREMATING HER BODY. I TOLD THEM ON SUNDAY THAT I WANTED TO COME TO THE MEMORIAL SERVICE. I LIVE OUT OF STATE SO THEY WOULD HAVE TO GIVE ME A COUPLE OF HOURS NOTICE-WHICH I KNEW THEY WOULD HAVE TIME. WELL, I JUST GOT AN EMAIL FROM MY MOM SAYING THAT THEY HAD THE MEMORIAL SERVICE LAST NIGHT.
I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND THEM. THIS WAS MY FAVORITE AUNT, AND I LOVED HER DEARLY. I SPENT EVERY SUMMER AT HER HOUSE WHILE I WAS GROWING UP. THIS MAKES NO SENSE TO ME WHY THEY ARE THIS WAY.

NOT REALLY SEEKING ANSWERS FROM YOU GUYS, I JUST NEED TO GET THAT OFF MY CHEST.

Sorry ABout you loss

sorry about your loss..

Im sure it had nothing to do with you so dont feel bad. Im sure the fact that the memorial was done last night was more for time factors, money etc. I wouldnt take it personally. You can always remember your aunt and think about her in your own time and place!

THANKS PENNY.

SORRY FO THAT to happen to you..

I lost a half brother, to the same NOT BEING told,,,until it was all done. And yes,,,THATS WRONG!!

Time will help...

I'm sorry for your loss. I've learned that just because someone is related to you by blood, doesn't automatically make them a good or trustworthy person.

I'm very sorry .. that's hurtful and insensitive. Perhaps they had a reason you aren't aware of but they should tell you if that's the case.

*hugs*

My sympathy on the loss of your aunt, and I'm truly sorry that you have to deal with this difficult situation on top of that.

YEAH, BUT EVERYBODY ELSE KNEW ABOUT IT. MYPARENTS LIVE OVER A HOUR AWAY FROM THE MEMORIAL SITE. SO I KNOW THEY KNEW ABOUT IT IN TIME TO LET ME KNOW. I COULD UNDERSTAND IF I LIVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY, BUT I ONLY LIVE 4 HOURS AWAY. IT WASNT LIKE I WAS ASKING FOR DAYS NOTICE.....JUST A FEW HOURS TO DRIVE THERE. THEY COULDNT EVEN MAKE A PHONE CALL????????

AND THEY KNOW OUR FAMILY HAS HAD A HARD TIME. WE LOST MY GRANDFATHER DEC 23, AND NOW MY AUNT-his daughter- MARCH 23. THAT IS A LOT TO DEAL WITH. AND I WANTED TO BE THERE.

Hugs and 's for you!
Sorry for your loss...

Sounds like God received another Angel.

You will always have your memories of her & NO one can take those from you. She is forever in your heart.

Good luck & time does help to heal the void.

I wish I had an answer for you. All I know from experience is that people become so engulfed in their own grief that sometimes they're just not capable of being there for others.

Take care of yourself and know that there are people who have you in their thoughts and prayers.

Well if you are really struggling with this tell them. You have been deeply hurt and it needs to be discussed hon.

May I suggest you take your caps lock off though, cuz that's considered YELLING and we didn't do anything to be yelled at

Sorry about your loss...

So sorry for your loss! So you know you're not alone...

I was on a cruise when my grandmother passed, and my mother didn't mention it to me until I got back, though I spoke to her most every day. She said she was worried it would ruin my trip...but I'd have rather known, and might have even been able to get home for her funeral. I was very close to her as well. I was sour about it for quite awhile, but eventually realized that she had to make a decision one way or another and truly thought she'd made the best choice.

Maybe your family faced something similar? Could they have thought it would be best for some reason, or spare you in some way? Anything?

Ya .. same thing happened to me with my grandma but it was the day before my wedding. they meant well though...

It's sometimes 50/50 and you can't take the wrong choice back...not as it applies to this situation.