your absolutely right, my thoughts the same

Hey everyone I am taken now. Woo-hoo, gots me a fine woman, not from here. I didn't post about meeting her or our first couple of dates because I didn't want to jinx the deal. Oh Yeah, getting some too!!!


(Patiently waiting for flirting, IM's and dirty talking emails to start rolling in)

lol....

I hear there is a "success story" thread here on justsayhi you can post to.

I was asked to post our story on it by my Partner a while back. Anyone know where I can find it today?

I just spewed my coffee

you all make a very good point that it is not just women but also men who do this and yes the right thing would be for the man to set it straight from the beginning with the woman who is trying to start the trouble.

This is my take on this.

I have done matchmaking threads on different sites for 10 years. There are a few observations that I have made. #1 there can be the nicest guy in the thread and no one really pays him any attention. then say for example I start to flirt and do things. Women are then like flies on shi* they then bombard him and want him. To me this is a complete joke. It's a game that is played and it is hurtful the most to the person that #1 comes out of his shell and is having a blast who then is confused that after 30 threads of nothing....All the sudden is the best thing since sliced bread.....Get a clue people and remember not only what goes around comes around. But more important do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Then their is a second scenario that I see over and over again. When I was matching people in another thread they would get matched be all in love. I would then do a mock wedding and after that I would tell them....GET OUT....because the vultures will be upon you.....Now if they took my advice all was good and they would come back with a solid foundation that no one could break. I made it very clear if anyone e-mailed crap about the other one....that right then and there you e-mail the partner and unite as one. If this was done then all good. But in most cases one of the partners would believe the crap and that would be the end of the relationship.

In this particular case that this thread is referring to. I not only told both parties that it would happen. But I told them who it would be. I gave them a name....and still one did not listen, and it got very nasty......now again I say what I do
to people because I have been doing this a very long time, and the gifts the Lord above has given me enable me to do so. But I can only give the information. I can't make the good people of JSH take the advice.

So happy trails good people of JSH.......and remember this could so easily happen to you.....so heed the advice of the matchmaker and be very very careful.

Couple of possibilities:

Abandoholics are usually attracted to unavailable partners so they can replay and cling to their addiction of being a victim of abandonment in their youths. Some only crave the pain, anguish and drama to quell their addiction, while other abandoholics are actually looking for a different outcome to right the wrong that was once done to them, feeling it would prove them worthy of the love they were once denied.

Abandophobics also crave the unavailable partner for fear of entering a real relationship and exposing themselves to the risk of being abandoned yet again. They feel safer in a situation which they know the outcome in advance, even though it is never good. A true abandophobic will run at the first sign that their partner might actually leave their spouse for them.

Or it could just be they think you have good taste...

Come get matched

http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/98152

I have to agree that the woman shouldnt have done what she did but its up to the MAN, TO say something. If he likes to do the love triangle thing then he was no good in the first place and to me......not much of a man!!

short, sweet and right to the point.

So if I say i'm TAKEN, You chicks'll dig me?

I stay clear of attached men

lol glen I dont go for other people's men......never been like that!!! But others are!!! And Im sure you can get any woman you wanted!!

hell yea its sad iam single and no ones offerd me a chance yet dam this sucks lol

Well, I wish you weren't so far from me. I need some nice male friends and one day do hope to be in love again. I'm just now looking for someone to laugh and pal around with. Good luck
One of a kind!

I agree with you madamx but at the same time i'm thinking, where is the man's head at? I have seen this happen and i'm the type if someone was doing this with me. I have no problem putting a women in her spot or for that matter any man that was doing that to a friend. if some respects thereself they will see the over all picture and on that not. It's up to the person that is allowing that to take place to pull there head out of there ass....

((angel)) I do not react well when crossed or hurt either. My ugly side is just that UGLY

hey big boy...

sounds like someone is completely lacking in morals, and is completely self-absorbed......hey, when did this thread turn into one about me?