I just need to get over it!
Oh Lord help me!

Since I am not being served....perhaps I will say I never received the papers

What has happened?

what?

My husband filed for divorce...

I think once they're filed they don't have to be served. They just mail you a copy and you take them to your lawyer. Been there, done that, unfortunately. I'm sorry to hear it's happening to you.

oh i see .see that helps

mee too sorry to hear that .ive been through that myself its hell

awww I'm sorry. Divorce sucks. Well you seem like a sweet person and you're very pretty. His loss.

Amen

can't afford a lawyer.....

Sorry to hear this, but was it because YOUR HERE?

And I know THIS from life, if YOU do not appear in court he will WIN all that HE is asking for..

They can either go to your lawyer or they will be served to you. One or the other.

They can either go to your lawyer or they will be served to you. One or the other.

I know it's difficult...but you're right. The sooner you get over it the better. Try to get an attorney, maybe you could work out a payment plan.

He has lots of money.....He can keep it! I just want our son to continue to live with me. He said he wants joint custody which is fine with me. I just didn't want to be a single mom to our son, but so goes life. I will leave his choice in the hands of God.

If he has lots of money...and you're married....see an attorney and request that he pay for it.

That's what someone at Church suggested. Guess I could give it a try, being I am not the one wanting a divorce. I don't want it to get ugly though.

If the parties are substantially in agreement you may not need a lawyer. Usually the initial consultation is free. You might check with one just to touch base. Tell them about the no money problem and see what they recommend. There's some that do pro bono (free) work. Folks at your church may know of them, if you want to talk to them.

Satan hates marriage and the family and does all he can to tear them apart. He knows of the consequences to those involved and the kids.

My marriages weren't bibically based and I had problems. The first time, I didn't walk with the Lord and ended up divorcing my wife unjustly. I'm still struggling with the guilt over that one.

The second one, I struggled with too. I didn't treat my wife as well as I should have and she ended up passing away. She was an absolute angel, loved me much more than I loved her and she taught me a lot about love and about life.

Next time around, it's gonna be bibically based. I found that sleeping with someone before I was married robbed me of judgement and made me make mistakes. That's one of sin's consequences, I guess.

Each time I was married was a little better, though. I learned from each time. There was some blessing amidst the darkness. The Lord can use bad and evil for good and weave it into his plan. Naomi lost her husband, only to find the friendship of Ruth, demonstrate redemption and it ultimately led to the family line of David and Jesus.

It turns out in the end. Keep your eyes focused on the Lord and share your troubles with your church family. They should be able to help, I would think.

Having been there and done that, and not knowing the specific laws for your state...

If you don't respond normally within 14-30 days to the papers mailed to you then they will be served on you and you will have to pay the cost of the process server.

For the most part if you are not in disagreement over anything you can usually take care of the paperwork all on your own, I know I did. I didn't have the money for a lawyer either, but you can usually print out what ever response you need to file from the court's website and take it into the office. My state has required court order mediation before you ever see the judge to settle as much as possible, if you guys aren't in contention over anything such as custody, child support or assets than you should be fine.

Sorry to hear your loss and I felt your pain

God will get you through it, you will grow closer to him ever imaginable if you allow him to.

Best of luck!

go to the court and ask them, what's going on