I been wanting to get on with my life, doing everything for my daughter, I feel kinda trapped with my ex wife, and she would like to get back together after all these yrs. I just dont feel the love for her, but my daughter I can't give enought. Does anyone have a good answer how to get on with my life??

continue on! dont let the ex stand in your way of total happiness!

tks..

get out of old habits... make new friends and hobbies... find new interests..... make a "new" life for you

your daughter will know youre unhappy
and it wont make for a happy house hold

Just spend as much time as u can with your daughter and along the way u may meet the woman of your dreams...If the love isn't there for your ex don't go down that road, cuz it will only end up hurting u and your daughter in the long run.. good luck

You've started getting on by doing something like JSH. I just hope that because you won't get back together with your ex that she will make your life miserable with regard to your daughter. But, yeah, if you can't get those feelings back for her, you have to do right for yourself and press on with taking care of your own needs. Best wishes...

tks all for your help

if you are more miserable with your ex, it will show with your expressions that you are miserable, and your daughter would rather see you happy,...talk to her if she's above four years old, and see what she says... you might be suprised on her insight and may become tighter, and help your piece of mind, as well as your future confidence for other chances at happiness.

If you change your life, put it on a Biblical basis, it might work. If you don't, probably won't. Good luck to you. Both you and your ex should keep contact with your daughter, of course, and do your best for her. Stay close geographically and take her to church if you can. It'd be to her benefit (and perhaps to yours) in the long run.

Just my two cents.

God Bless You and good luck.

If you don't have the love that you use to for your ex then I suggest just letting her go, because what is most important for you right now is your daughters happiness and yours!!
The hardest part is letting go, but once you do new and better doors open for you and your daughter. Our kids are the most important humans in our lives and we will give our own lives to make sure they don't feel one ounce of sadness or pain and to protect them always with everything we are!!
Good luck to you and your daughter!!

Everyone need's to be alittle selfish,,,, If you feel the need for a women go for it,,,, Don't let ex bother you at all,,, Make it plain that you love your little girl and it is a package deal

Don't ever fake it.. it's not worth it. You know what you don't want, and your ex should accept that, as long as you have clearly laid out those feelings to her. She'll always be in your life as long as you two have your kid, but cut her out in every other way... don't spend time with them together and give her reasons to stay in love.

I have been through a similar situation. We have to do what makes us happy in order to lead a healthy life.

Your daughter still can have a very happy, healthy life even if you and her mom are not together. She will still have two people that love her very much.

Continue on. But talk to your daughter about this make sure she knows noone will come in between you and that you will always love her very much and if anyone was to come into your lives she would have to love both of you. Make sure you continue spending time with her and loving her.Hug her and kiss her when you can you never know when you will lose her and you wont have a chance again. thats your daughter and nothings more precious than that. Make sure you dont let that woman force you and your daughter apart or even try to send her off somewhere like a school or something. My yahoo id is smitty56471

Carry on

Don't get back with the ex just for the daughter, things wpn't work out and she would only end up getting hurt even more.

It would be better for you, your ex, and your daughter if you just moved on, keeping a healthy relationship with both your ex and you daughter.

Don't let the ex stand in your way. Spend as much time with your daughter as you can. However, when it comes to dating...talk to your daughter first and make sure she knows about it. Kids don't like surprises when it comes to their parents dating other people. Don't introduce any of your dates to your daughter unless you know you are serious about them.

I have a situation with some similarities. Children are bright. Tell your daughter in the most loving way possible that both you and her mom will forver love her, but that the two of you have decided to just be friends. To reinforce that, have a talk with her mom and make sure no flirting or anything that would give your daughter false hope is done. One day she'll understand it was for the best.

Best of luck!

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