Never been outright rejected. In fact the only girl I got to know on here like me a lot.. she was a little creepy. I've been ignored a bit, but whatever it's life.

So if someone looks at your profile and decides they don't want to talk to you is that a form of rejection? Because they are pretty much saying, no, not for me, right?

Anyway, I don't let rejection bother me. If I did I'd have to apologize every time I didn't like someone else. Take up way too much time.

Besides, as my family says, people are like busses; stand there long enough and another one is bound to come by sooner or later.

sometimes I will look at a profile of a guy who seems interesting. Then I will see something in his preferences that disqualifies me - he wants someone who drinks, or he prefers slender women, or he doesn't want a woman with kids. Whatever. If I then move on to the next without sending this person a note, have I rejected him?

Methinks not.

Looking at someone's profile isn't really rejection. Sometimes people want to look at more pictures or just see your age or whatever. I consider emailing someone and getting ignored more rejection than profile views

Exactly. Viewing is just to see what someone's personality is like and get more of a better view. Not emailing is not at all rejection especially if the person happens to be a lot older or younger than you or has blocks on the email or any other thing preventing contact

Nope. You've got the right of it there.

I don't think anything I've dealt with is outright "rejection", per se.

I've had more than a few who ignored me, sure. Like Lex said, par for the course on here. I don't consider that "rejecting", though.

Then there's the one that DID talk to me, then told me she couldn't be friends anymore because she was interested in this other guy and wanted it to work out with him. Maybe a mini-rejection there, but I dunno.. not really.

If someone doesn't e-mail back, or takes a month to do so, or just blows me off after being in touch a few times... I chalk it up to them not bothering to get to know me. <shrug>

People, are people. No matter what you do, it's tough to change that...

how is being ignored by someone not a form of rejection? I am confused by this

It's a silent no, so in a way, Rob, you're right, it is a form of rejection.

I guess I meant more literal, vocal, rejection. "No thanks, not for me." "You're not what I'm looking for", etc.

I think I got this. So in essence, what you were saying is that if someone hasn't taken the time to actually get to know you then they can't be rejecting you because they have no idea who you are or what they're saying no to? So it's not personal, it's just a matter of choosing, say chinese over pizza for a day.

Yep, that's pretty much how I view it, Kasey. It's more of a choice, than a full-on rejection...


Now if you were to say to me, "Jason, I don't want you to e-mail me anymore. I'm not going to e-mail you. Sorry."

Well, that's suck, first, but yeah, THAT is a rejection. (=

But they're so entertaining! I love reading emails. So long as they don't just say what's up. I really think maybe I should just try to find some penpals and then I'd be completely satisfied.

You were supposed to say, "Oh no, Jason, I'd NEVER say that.".

Well I implied it! Or meant to. Sorry, here, let me fix that!

Oh no, Jason. I would never do that! Your emails are the best! I wake up every morning and run to my computer to see if you've written to me and then when you haven't I'm unconsolable for at least an hour. After which I then sit in front of my computer impatiently waiting, clicking from my account to mail back to my account, back to mail, on and on until I just can't take it anymore! But when you do send me something, I do a happy dance in my living room until the neighbor lady starts pounding on her ceiling with a broom trying to make me stop. Then I sit down and read said email at least a dozen times before going back and starting with the first one and reading them all in succession again.

That better?

That's MUCH better.. LOL

Anytime, darlin!

Haven't been rejected by anyone on JSH (yet), but I have been rejected elsewhere. There were times when stuff just wasn't clicking, and there were other times where I felt something while they didn't.

The latter experiences were the ones that sorta sucked, as I honestly thought they'd work.

However, the only thing you can do is move on and try to find someone who does click with you. It's about the most you can ask for.